DH and I are married, but I kept my maiden name. I changed my name the first time I got married to my exH's name - and then went through hell to try and change it back with all the "procedural rules" up here. So I kept my name.
The kids have DH's surname though. Sometimes I think about changing my name to be the same as my kids, because you always get "those" looks, when they think I'm unmarried, to which I quickly say "we're married and I kept my name" blah blah blah
Just bothers me because I'm judged so quickly and they don't even know the reason why I don't have his name (and also my name just sounds SOOOOOOO bad with his last name, and I like mine - its different - and I can spell it quickly... and I like that.... LOL)
Anyhoo - *cough cough* - yes... kids have hubby's name.
child number 1 has my last name (was with father but chose to give my last name for a few reasons. Ex had no say)
child number 2 has DF's last name
child number 3 will have DF's last name
when we marry i will hyphernate my surname and if/when DF adopts child number one and can have #1's name changed to his ill more then likely drop my maiden name and just have DF's name. If child number one doesnt get to change surname then ill keep mine hyphernated.
I am very interested in this thread as am still undecided what to do. I am not big on hyphenating names.
Would love my child to have DP's last name but I dont want to have a different last name to my child. I grew up with a different last name to my mum as she got divorced from my dad and I didnt like it.
Does anyone know if it is difficult to change a childs last name if DP and I did eventually one day get married.
Seeming this baby is already overdue I am running out of time to work this out!
Just to put a different spin on this thread. Family friends of my parents got married and the Husband took the Wifes surname because it was important to her to carry on her family name (no sons to carry it on).
The girls have DF's surname easy to say and I will also become a Smith one day.
I've had to go through the the whole change of name crap to get my passport as my surname now is different to the name on my birth certificate (parents split when I was young) I didn't want to have the hassle of changing their surnames when we get married.
I took my husbands surname both times, and so my eldest 2 still currently have their 'bio-donors' surname. This will be changed very soon. They will be changed to my DHs surname as this is what they both want. They want us to be a complete family and feel that the different surnames makes others think of them as "half-siblings" to their younger siblings, and they simply do not feel it. To all 5 of them, they are brothers and sisters. There is no distinction.
We will all had DHs surname come March (kids have demanded I use their B2S bonus to get them changed, lol).
I took DHs name as I wanted it. Its cooler than my maiden name anyway. I have a very typical surname and he has a nice Irish one. Although everyone spells it like the president.
DH has a friend from school however who at his marriage shocked everyone by taking his new wifes surname rather than the other way around. So instead of a 'maiden' name, he has a 'bachelor' name, lol.
Great thread topic, I am very interested in the responses here too.
I am married but have not managed to get around to changing my name properly as yet... although I plan to and DD has her Dad's name. At the moment I am in a bit of limbo with both my maiden name and married name in use.
I felt very strongly about having the same name as my child so while awaiting the arrival of DD we had alot of big discussions about this very name issue. I said that I wanted my child to have the same name and me as I had been waiting for 6 years for the marriage to actually take place DH (DF at the time) had to make a very compelling argument to me about why his name would be used.
We talked about DH taking my name as our 'new family name' but after thinking about it he thought that it didn't feel right for him. In a patri-lineal society it does seem easier to follow the norm! We talked about DD using my name until DH and I got married, a bit like you suggested Alibaby, but when I thought about this I decided it was unfair to saddle a child with the annoyance of having to prove a change of name every time they had to fill in an official form as they went through life - much like your experience 2girlz. Nobody wants to have to deal with certifying documents any more than they have too!
In the end we got married wile pg and gave DD my husbands name. I didn't feel particularly attached to my surname (always identified more with my mother's side of the family than my dad's so always felt like I grew up with the wrong surname anyway ) and did like the idea of starting a new family unit with DH with a new name.
In relation to the hyphen, I am not really a fan, like to keep the name as simple as possible Re: spelling etc.
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) and did like the idea of starting a new family unit with DH with a new name. 
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