Which name?

[ladybirdflies]

I think Tobias goes really well with the other names!!

[wysiwyg]

I prefer Tobias over Joel, and think it goes really well with your other names - I take it the initials for both are equally to your liking TA+surname vs JA+surname (I have a thing about initials, I think because I have to initial things often at work and see alot too and there are some I like and some not so much) My DS middle name is Arthur - I think is a lovely name.