We really liked Lucas for a boy and I went out with a Lucas at high school (see my age to get how long ago that would actually have been )- he's a nice guy and the relationship was so insignificant and short lived that we decided to keep the name at the top of our list. We had a girl so didn't get to use it anyway
Not true here either.
I actually have the same name as DH's only other long term girlfriend. So we wouldn't have picked that name for DD just based on the fact that it's my name.
And DH wants Thomas for a boy. But this is the name of my first love and although I still have some feelings for this guy (not in the ? want to be with him kind of way") even though we haven't seen each other in almost 9 years, I could never give the same name to one of my children. It just doesn't seem right.
Curiously enough, although I explained that to DH, he doesn't see a problem with picking his'wife's ex's name. But I do, so the name is out.
Plus, I find the name a little on the too common side.
The people that DH and I were thinking of were young teenage crushes - people we were never actually involved with. And to be honest, I never associated the boys name that I like with the crush, if you know that I mean. I never thought "Hmmm... this was so-an-so's name - I'd love to name my baby after him." More like "that is such a nice name, sounds like a strong, kind, good name" without actually connecting it with the old crush.
I guess I'm not really talking about naming your baby after an ex. Blegh! That would definitely suggest that you're not over them! I guess I mean more someone of the opposite sex that you thought was wonderful when you were young.
Mmm, still not really true here. Even when I think of people with the names I like for a boy, I don't think I ever had a crush on someone with any of those names.
And I don't think DH knew any girls by the names of Maya or Lilliana (which are our choices for girls). Plus, both of those were names I suggested. He jsut agreed that he liked them, too.
There was a boy at school named Cameron who was so lovely - not even someone I had a crush on, but he just had such a beaut character, and that name has always been at the top of my list!
I also think it works in reverse- ie - if you sat next to a mean, smelly, ugly or err... fat person at school, their name will conjure up negative associations when you hear it later in life.
Funny how that happens....
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)- he's a nice guy and the relationship was so insignificant and short lived that we decided to keep the name at the top of our list. We had a girl so didn't get to use it anyway
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