Should I change this to suit my mother?

[krysalyss]

I am sure you will already have read back your original post and realised how ridiculous it is to consider changing your babys name to suit a petty preference of your mum. She is being manipulative whether she realises it or not. Stick with the name that you want. If you really feel that you should compromise then change the spelling to something less traditional.

[dueinfeb]

Yep...definitely your baby = your pick. Your Mum will get over it within a week and if you change for her you'll probably never forget it!

[Lulu]

Stick to your guns, but you should torture your mum for sure!!

Tell her its going to be Nicole Hayley, find the name of everyone she hates and throw those around when she is over next time.

[krysalyss]

Tell her its going to be Nicole Hayley, find the name of everyone she hates and throw those around when she is over next time

Awesome!!!

[AliBaby]

ABSOLUTELY NOT!! Don't do anyhting to please anyone else but yourself and your parnter. It is not your mums decision. Tell her if she liked the other name so much then she should have thought of it when she was naming HER children.

Your name choices are beautiful BTW.

[Mumma&Bubba(s)]

Hi GothMum,
Just as everyone else has said - it's your baby - you're the Mum
My mother expected me to name my first born (which she hoped would be a girl) after her - she wanted the middle name to be her's. When I discussed this with my DH we agreed that it should be joint decision, besides if someone insists you call your child after them to please themselves - it's certainly not something you want to do yourself!!

When I told my Mum that we weren't going to name a daughter after her she yelled- "Well I hope you don't have a daughter!" and hung up on me.... so do what you and your hubby want to do - not your mother!! You'll regret it if you do, and she'll think she rules the roost and maybe expect you to do other things she wants you to do in the future.
Good luck with your decision!

[Glamourcide]

Thanks heaps guys, I knew I was doing the right thing by wanting to stick to my (and my husband's) decision, especially as my mother can be such a pain in the neck at times. I love her to bits, she's wonderful, but the truth is she can be quite manipulative and she's one of those people who tries to force their likes and dislikes onto other people, and if you know she doesn't like something but you do it anyway, she takes it as a personal attack against her and never forgives. It's hard, but I agree with what has been said - she had her turn to name my brother and I (and imo she failed miserably, I have always hated my name and copped endless flak for it at school, so did my little brother for his name), so I have the right to choose my own children's names and hope that they grow up liking them.
My only issue was that Hayley Blair was my husband's first choice over Hayley Nicole, but I thought the Nicole sounded better with our last name... but he is really easygoing about the names, he honestly couldn't care less so I guess I answered my own question there!

Thanks again though everyone, I totally agree with what everybody has said, and I appreciate that a lot of you think it's a pretty name Makes me even more sure of my decision, especially seeing as most names my mum throws around are absolutely hideous to my ears (and she has this obsession with initials, like if the three letters don't spell a word or stand for something funny, then the name is crap - I'd rather have nonsense initials so that nobody can pick on them... Mum might think it's funny to have a kid named Fiona Amelia Thompson or Chloe Olivia Williams... but I don't).

[Becky29]

I agree with everyone else. You should DEFINATELY call YOUR baby girl whatever you like. I have told people what we are thinking of naming our little girl and sometimes their opinions aren't what you expect, which confuses you and then you consider choosing something else which isn't right. I think I learnt my lesson for next time, to just zip it and not tell a soul. Oh by the way I think Hayley Nicole is a beautiful name.

[nickers]

nope dont change it, you have to call her this name and live with your decision and if you change it to suit her you will never be happy with it.

I also think Hayley Nicole sounds pretty and pffftttt to her for not liking it!

Hey tell her you know a girl on BB by the name of Nicole and she is far from a deads*** (drug addict, and bogan) but a lovely, thoughful, funny, happy young lady!! hehe

ROFL Lulu!!!

[Special]

Definitely stick with whatever name makes you and her Dad happy.
If your Mum truly is going to screw up her nose every time she hears her grand-daughters name then she is a *****.
I doubt that would happen though. She'll get over it, the name will become your daughters.
Besides, how often do we actually use middle names?

[westy]

Definately not...this is YOUR baby so you and your DH name your daughter whatever name YOU like!

Your mum has had her day or naming her own children now she just needs to sit back and let you name YOUR children!

BTW...Love the name you have chosen!