Hi GothMum,
Just as everyone else has said - it's your baby - you're the Mum
My mother expected me to name my first born (which she hoped would be a girl) after her - she wanted the middle name to be her's. When I discussed this with my DH we agreed that it should be joint decision, besides if someone insists you call your child after them to please themselves - it's certainly not something you want to do yourself!!
When I told my Mum that we weren't going to name a daughter after her she yelled- "Well I hope you don't have a daughter!" and hung up on me.... so do what you and your hubby want to do - not your mother!! You'll regret it if you do, and she'll think she rules the roost and maybe expect you to do other things she wants you to do in the future.
Good luck with your decision!
I agree with everyone else. You should DEFINATELY call YOUR baby girl whatever you like. I have told people what we are thinking of naming our little girl and sometimes their opinions aren't what you expect, which confuses you and then you consider choosing something else which isn't right. I think I learnt my lesson for next time, to just zip it and not tell a soul. Oh by the way I think Hayley Nicole is a beautiful name.
Thanks heaps guys, I knew I was doing the right thing by wanting to stick to my (and my husband's) decision, especially as my mother can be such a pain in the neck at times. I love her to bits, she's wonderful, but the truth is she can be quite manipulative and she's one of those people who tries to force their likes and dislikes onto other people, and if you know she doesn't like something but you do it anyway, she takes it as a personal attack against her and never forgives. It's hard, but I agree with what has been said - she had her turn to name my brother and I (and imo she failed miserably, I have always hated my name and copped endless flak for it at school, so did my little brother for his name), so I have the right to choose my own children's names and hope that they grow up liking them.
My only issue was that Hayley Blair was my husband's first choice over Hayley Nicole, but I thought the Nicole sounded better with our last name... but he is really easygoing about the names, he honestly couldn't care less so I guess I answered my own question there!
Thanks again though everyone, I totally agree with what everybody has said, and I appreciate that a lot of you think it's a pretty name Makes me even more sure of my decision, especially seeing as most names my mum throws around are absolutely hideous to my ears (and she has this obsession with initials, like if the three letters don't spell a word or stand for something funny, then the name is crap - I'd rather have nonsense initials so that nobody can pick on them... Mum might think it's funny to have a kid named Fiona Amelia Thompson or Chloe Olivia Williams... but I don't).
nope dont change it, you have to call her this name and live with your decision and if you change it to suit her you will never be happy with it.
I also think Hayley Nicole sounds pretty and pffftttt to her for not liking it!
Hey tell her you know a girl on BB by the name of Nicole and she is far from a deads*** (drug addict, and bogan) but a lovely, thoughful, funny, happy young lady!! hehe
It's your bub, name her what ever you like.
Please don't change it from something you love just to placate your mother. It's not her choice. And if your not reminded of the Bogan Nicole everytime you say it, then there is no point in changing it.
My MIL hated the name we picked out (Claire Ivy) becuase there was a girl back in highschool named Claire who used to tease her, and that she'd always be thinking about it and that i should pick something else. Basically i looked at her and said "uhm, how about no. I love the name, and i'm not going to be reminded of that chick"
Definitely stick with whatever name makes you and her Dad happy.
If your Mum truly is going to screw up her nose every time she hears her grand-daughters name then she is a *****.
I doubt that would happen though. She'll get over it, the name will become your daughters.
Besides, how often do we actually use middle names?
NO WAY! This is YOUR child NOT hers'!
Pick the name you like and stick with it.
Our son's name is Lachlan Mackenzie Moshe and DH's parents weren't keen on it when we announced his name at the hospital after the birth and kept asking why we chose scottish names when we were Jewish.
In the end, name your child what YOU like, you'll be the one writing, saying, associating with it more often! Good Luck!
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Makes me even more sure of my decision, especially seeing as most names my mum throws around are absolutely hideous to my ears (and she has this obsession with initials, like if the three letters don't spell a word or stand for something funny, then the name is crap - I'd rather have nonsense initials so that nobody can pick on them... Mum might think it's funny to have a kid named Fiona Amelia Thompson or Chloe Olivia Williams... but I don't).
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