"Stolen" Baby Names

[Marilynne]

Did anyone listen to Hughsey and Kate this morning?
They were talking about baby names that friends / family have 'taken' after knowing you like them. Or, in a few cases, naming their pets one of these names. Boy, have I seen that happen so many times. My 2nd cousin loved the name "Lucy" and then one of her close friends got a dog and named her Lucy before her little girl was born. Cruel!

[Kazmar]

My mum was going to call me a name. Then her 'friend' had her baby girl a week before mum and named her daughter that name. Knowing that mum had it picked for her girl

[Tiff+2]

Yeah friends of mine had always LOVED the name Harry for a boy and made this mistake of telling her 'best friend'... Both women were TTC around the same time, the friend got preg first, had a boy , named him Harrison, but they call him Harry... My friend was devisted! She has now got over it and says if her n her DH are ever blessed with a son they are going to call him Harry no matter what!

[sneakysparkle]

I didnt hear hughsey & kate, but my sister's XH got remarried and called his son what he & my sister were going to call my niece if she was a boy! What the?!

[Tiff+2]

I didnt hear hughsey & kate, but my sister's XH got remarried and called his son what he & my sister were going to call my niece if she was a boy! What the?!

WOW that is really wrong!!! I just can't believe anybody would do that!

[nickers]

i could never do that to anyone i dont know how so many people do. and if a friend named their child the name the KNEW we were going to pick i would be saying WHAT THE to them, confront them straight up

[paradise lost]

Both DP and I have pretty common names. There were 2 rebecca's in my year in every school i went to and when i was at Uni there were FOUR rebecca's in my corridor in Halls, so i wouldn't consider a name out of bounds just because someone i knew had used it. DD's name was picked from books (though not the same books, it came from books both XP and I liked!) and isn't all that common but i'd be very flattered if someone "stole" it because let's face it, if your friend has a horrible brat that you can't stand the sight of or you know a person with a kid with the name you like and you can't stand the parent at all, you're not likely to use that name are you! There are lots of names all of us will automatically dislike because we associate it with something or someone we don't like in our heads. From that POV i actually think it's quite sweet when a child is named after (or before) someone.

DD's name meant a lot to us, everyone and their dog could have called their kid that and we'd still have gone ahead, because we had our reasons. It's too tempting to get sucked into trying to find a name no other kid you know has! My nephew's parents made up (as in invented) his name and he can't WAIT to change it by deed poll. There was a kid in America recently had her name changed because her parents, anxious to give her an "original" name, called her Tallulah Does The Hula In Hawaii. I'm not kidding!

I have always loved the name Olivia and it's one of the names DP and i have in the backs of our minds for when we have a kidlet or two. My good friend had her baby last year and called her Olivia. She knew i really liked it, but she had her baby first! LOL. TBH i really love her little Olivia and if i had another girl and she looked like an Olivia i'd call her that. I know my friend would be very flattered to know i'd named my girl after hers.

Bx

[nic]

I don't think it would worry me that much, but it does my DH. He told a friend of his a few years ago about a boys name that he loved, and then the friend and wife had a son, and called him the same name that DH wanted.. He still isn't over it lol, and it was about 6 years ago now!

[ness]

My brother and his partner had picked a boys name and my other brother and his partner stole it from them...it has been a bit of a running joke in our family. I know that my brothers daughter (who is only 4) has said things about how mummy and daddy won't tell anyone their new name so it doesn't get stolen..(You have to be careful what you say infront of a 4 year old). But it's all good now!!

[briggsy's girl]

when we were younger, my bro idolised Michael Jordan and said he'd name his first son either Michael or Jordan - our cousin had a boy and named him Jordan, so from then on, my bro was naming his first boy Michael - if i had a son before him, and used the name Michael, i'd see that as stealing the name from my bro.

we have names picked for our Gremlin - we also have another girls name and a boys name picked out. my immediate family know these names, and if they used them (they have no significance to family, so there is no reason for them to use them) i'd be peeved. if someone from DH's extended family used out boys name though, i'd get over it and still use it - the boys name is for DH's dad so it has meaning to others - i'd still use it cos the family are so estranged i'd never see the other little boy kwim? i MIGHT change first and second name order though..

there are a few BB girls that know Gremlin's name - if any of them managed to pop before me and used it now, i might feel a bit hurt because none that i've told it to have jumped up and said "OMG we were gonna use that name" so it would feel like they got the idea (kinda unusual name) and used it from us kwim?

[lilima]

I think that you should be flattered if you have a name stolen. I dont believe that you can't use a nome just because someone else has "baggsed" it. I am currently 31 weeks preg with a girl. My cousin was due approx 3 months before me. We are VERY close. She found out she was having a boy, and decided to call it Will. This is a name that I told her that I would call a boy if I had one. (although I did tell her a few years ago and she probably forgot.) Anyway I was a little annoyed, but then we thought it didn't really matter and if we had a boy, we too would call it "william." (basically the same name.) Sadly my cousin lost baby will at 35 weeks. I still didn't know if I was having a boy or girl, but still we would have called it William to honor her little boy. It ends up we are having a girl, so it is a non issue.
In saying all of that, I am only going to have 2 children, and just because I said if I have another boy I will call it this, doesn't mean that she can't use it "just in case", as what if she doesn't have another boy, it means no one would have used it.
I hope this ramble makes sense.

[dee81]

when i was pregnant with dd we were discussing names with my family and i told them that if we had a girl we would be calling her chloe lacey (lacey is my mums maiden name) and sil said that chloe was the name they had picked for a girl and we decided that who ever had a girl first got dibs on it.When chloe passed away sil was so happy that we had the name as it suited her perfectly. I'm lucky though have the best sil in the world. but have heard plenty of horror stories.

[ClareBear28]

OK once I can handle.... but twice? This post might sound a little OTT to some, but it is a topic that has upset me in my own personal experience...

A 'close' friend of mine had her son 2 yrs ago and named him Lachlan and then just recently she had a girl and named her Ella. We had discussed baby names several times over the years and I had mentioned to her that these were the names that I had liked since I was a teenager and that these would be the names that I would use when I had children. She had names picked out as well - William after her Grandfather and Grace after her deceased mother, and we also both discussed how pi**ed we would be if any of our friends chose the same names.

When I found out that she had used the name Lachlan, I was pretty upset, but I eventually got over it - however when I found out that she had used the name Ella aswell I was (and still am) livid! I haven't (and won't) confront her about it as I don't believe that I have any right to, as I don't own those names, but let me say that I think her actions are extremely selfish and hurtful to our friendship especially as we had both felt so strongly about any of our 'friends' choosing the same names.

[Oorki Galoorki]

this isnt a problem i think we will come across..our 2 have very original names so i doubt people would copy them but i would take it as a compliment if some one gave their child the same name as ours.

because we like different names we wouldnt be stealing from any one....