when we were younger, my bro idolised Michael Jordan and said he'd name his first son either Michael or Jordan - our cousin had a boy and named him Jordan, so from then on, my bro was naming his first boy Michael - if i had a son before him, and used the name Michael, i'd see that as stealing the name from my bro.
we have names picked for our Gremlin - we also have another girls name and a boys name picked out. my immediate family know these names, and if they used them (they have no significance to family, so there is no reason for them to use them) i'd be peeved. if someone from DH's extended family used out boys name though, i'd get over it and still use it - the boys name is for DH's dad so it has meaning to others - i'd still use it cos the family are so estranged i'd never see the other little boy kwim? i MIGHT change first and second name order though..
there are a few BB girls that know Gremlin's name - if any of them managed to pop before me and used it now, i might feel a bit hurt because none that i've told it to have jumped up and said "OMG we were gonna use that name" so it would feel like they got the idea (kinda unusual name) and used it from us kwim?
I think that you should be flattered if you have a name stolen. I dont believe that you can't use a nome just because someone else has "baggsed" it. I am currently 31 weeks preg with a girl. My cousin was due approx 3 months before me. We are VERY close. She found out she was having a boy, and decided to call it Will. This is a name that I told her that I would call a boy if I had one. (although I did tell her a few years ago and she probably forgot.) Anyway I was a little annoyed, but then we thought it didn't really matter and if we had a boy, we too would call it "william." (basically the same name.) Sadly my cousin lost baby will at 35 weeks. I still didn't know if I was having a boy or girl, but still we would have called it William to honor her little boy. It ends up we are having a girl, so it is a non issue.
In saying all of that, I am only going to have 2 children, and just because I said if I have another boy I will call it this, doesn't mean that she can't use it "just in case", as what if she doesn't have another boy, it means no one would have used it.
I hope this ramble makes sense.
when i was pregnant with dd we were discussing names with my family and i told them that if we had a girl we would be calling her chloe lacey (lacey is my mums maiden name) and sil said that chloe was the name they had picked for a girl and we decided that who ever had a girl first got dibs on it.When chloe passed away sil was so happy that we had the name as it suited her perfectly. I'm lucky though have the best sil in the world. but have heard plenty of horror stories.
OK once I can handle.... but twice? This post might sound a little OTT to some, but it is a topic that has upset me in my own personal experience...
A 'close' friend of mine had her son 2 yrs ago and named him Lachlan and then just recently she had a girl and named her Ella. We had discussed baby names several times over the years and I had mentioned to her that these were the names that I had liked since I was a teenager and that these would be the names that I would use when I had children. She had names picked out as well - William after her Grandfather and Grace after her deceased mother, and we also both discussed how pi**ed we would be if any of our friends chose the same names.
When I found out that she had used the name Lachlan, I was pretty upset, but I eventually got over it - however when I found out that she had used the name Ella aswell I was (and still am) livid! I haven't (and won't) confront her about it as I don't believe that I have any right to, as I don't own those names, but let me say that I think her actions are extremely selfish and hurtful to our friendship especially as we had both felt so strongly about any of our 'friends' choosing the same names.
this isnt a problem i think we will come across..our 2 have very original names so i doubt people would copy them but i would take it as a compliment if some one gave their child the same name as ours.
because we like different names we wouldnt be stealing from any one....
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