Is this unreasonable??

[mrsmac]

My cousin is Erin and so is my DD, neither of them mind in fact I think my cousin was flattered that I liked the name so much!!

DDs middle name is Kate and she was over the moon when SIL and brother called their 1st DD Natalie Kate, she adores that she has the same middle name as her cousin cause her older sister has mine and mum's middle name so now she feels connected to someone.

[~Stoked~]

I have seven sisters and one brother, Matthew James (aged 7). My second eldest sister named her son James and my younger sister used James as the middle name for her son too. No probs at all..

[saslia]

Up to you...DS's name is Liam and DN's middle name is William...didn't really think about it to be honest

[Alissa]

I don't think it's a problem for your son to have the same middle name, or even first name, as your nephew. But then I'm Greek, and it's Greek tradition to name the children after their grandparents, so I have a lot of cousins with the same/similar name - Alexander/Alexandra (Lexie), Evelyn/Evgenia, Christopher/Christopher... my dad even has the exact same name as his cousin as they were both named after the same paternal grandfather and unfortunately descended through his male children

Overall I think it's a mark of respect for your mother that both you and your sister are heeding. It could be worse; she could've loved a name you really disliked, and then you'd really be in trouble!

[*Ali*]

Have you thought about using it as a middle name as well? My DS and my nephew are only 2 weeks apart in age and they both have James as a middle name as it is my Dad's middle name and it my brothers middle name and it was my Grandad's middle name also.

Also DD and DH's cousin are about 4 months in age and both have Rose as a middle name as it was DH's Grannys name so had real significant meaning for both him and his uncle. I really dont mind, I think there are going to be many thousands of people out there with the same names, but if you love it then go with it.

[Footsteps]

i would use it. xox

[diva det]

hun my cousin and I have the same middle names- that of my great- grandmas
it was never an issue! Actually a nice connection to each other!!

but seriously hun - although you want to do the right thing by your mum- your first piority is you and your DH! So it is whatever suits your and DH!

hugs and yell out if you wanna talk more!!

[~*Niadalla*~]

If you want to use it... use it.
If you don't, then don't. It's your child, you go through the conception, pregnancy and birthing of them, so YOU get to make the ultimate decision ( oh and I mean hubby included).

[ElleJay]

Definitely if you like it go for it - And congrats on the lil boy

[Artechim]

My DS is named after DH's grandfather. One of DH's cousin's has mentioned that they were planning on using it as a middle name if they were to have another boy, which is just fine since we would most likely use their girl middle name if we had another daughter because it is a family name too.

I would hesitate if your nephew had it as a first name, but since it is his middle name I think it would be fine to use it and it is another family link for them to share.

[StephV]

I think its fine to use it. Its like a family name. My grandfather is James, my Dad is Christopher James and his brother is James - so thats using James in the same family. Plus it is a really nice name

[Phteven]

One of my brother's middle names is the same as........ one of my other brothers' middle names (we all have 2 middle names), my brother's first name is the same as my grandfather's first name and my uncle's middle name but my Grandad went by his middle name which is the same as the middle name my brothers have. My Dad has the same middle name as his cousin which is also my great-grandfather's name and my nephew's name. My younger brother's middle name is the same as my father's first name which is a different nephew's middle name.
Confused yet?


Anyways if you like the name I think you may as well use it.

[Mummato2]

Am I being unreasonable? These two little boys will see a lot of each other - its not like they will be some sort of distant relatives and no one will remember what my nephew's middle name is. They are also going to be very close in age.

Would you use someone else's middle name as first name for your bubs? Someone really close to you?? When there is going to be only 4 months between the two babies???

Firstly, if the name Daniel is just a name she liked (without say a family connection or meaning) then I don't know whether I'd be giving her naming rights. It's sort of like my MIL - she had 3 boys - desperately wanted a little girl and wanted to name her Louise. The amount of suggesting for my daughter (first granddaughter) to be Louise was huge!

But at the end of the day it's my child, I have to LOVE the name I give them.

As for whether I'd use someone else's middle name - that sort of thing never bothered me. They will be individual boys, sharing a middle name wouldn't be that big a deal.