If she does end up picking the same name and you both have the same gender children... send her a congratulations message admiring her taste as that's the name you're going to use for your child if he's a boy!
You don't have to change it, but letting her know early on would be polite, I think, that your children will have the same first name.
given she doesn't knwo of your choice (and it's a cute name!) i'd say it's just a fluke and run with it. your bubba will have a different middle name and will be an individual anyway.
i agree with RH - let them know, if they use the name, what great taste they have in names - either that, or get DS to blab and tell them you're naming your bubba X and then see if they change lol
If she was a very close friend then I, personally, would change the name we'd picked (very begrudgingly - names are hard!) because I'd feel a bit funny about having the same names.
But go with how you feel, if you absolutely love the name and can't imagine another one for your bub, then go for it!
Hopefully you will both have different gender bubs and it won't be an issue
I'd use it still. Will you really see them that often? Maybe now you will, but when your kids are 5, 10...?
The only time I'd maybe change it is if my sister (or BIL's, if that ever happens, c'mon guys!) used the same name. Cos we see each other quite a bit.
It's possible that I'd change it if the name was really uncommon too. But maybe not. It would depend how sold I was on it. If you LOVE the name, then stick with it I reckon.
My GF and I were due a week apart. In the end we agreed to discuss our chosen names shortlists (had spoken of them to no one else) and it turned out we both liked a variant name. I like Tobias, she liked Tobiah. In the end, we agreed first across the line got to pick their favorite. Anyway, she had a boy and I had a girl and that sorted that out.
So I think you should talk about it with your friend. In a shortlist kind of way. Decide between yourselves what's ok and what's not ok. In real life, you're just as likely to make a new friend who ends up have the same named children, so does it really matter in the long run?
she wont have a shortlist before the birth, they kind of decide on the day.
I have decided I will tell her we're having a XXX and naming the baby <name>
That way if she uses it, she already kows that we will be - if it doesnt worry her it doesnt worry me.
I went to a baby shower a couple months ago (I was just about to have the 19 week scan). The mother-to-be asked me if we'd come up with any names. I'd said we'd come up with a boys name, but no girls as yet. I knew she was having a boy, but the names she liked were nothing like what we'd chosen, so I didn't feel too concerned about telling the the one and only boys name we had come up with.
She had her little boy last week and guess what name she picked... YEP! THE ONE I TOLD HER!
There's NO WAY I'd use that name now... even though people have told me that it doesn't matter because I only see her once in a blue moon. It's tainted now a far as I'm concerned!
Moral to the story. If you've got a name you like, keep it to yourself!!!
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