I like it too, I personallyt wouldn't use it but I DO like it for a girl. I think if you and your man love it then pop it up the top of the list and keep it to yourself so no one in real life knows.
Its hard to say "EEEEWWWWWW I don't like that name" when you are looking at a sweet little baby with her angelic face and new baby smell
ETA - you did ask for other spellings so you could go Haiden or Haidyn ??
not a fan of haven though! we will stick to hayden.. i think i like haydenne but ill see what dh thinks! he isnt a fan of the "different" spelling (neither am i but i think thats pretty)
I like it Alish - with it's usual spelling. You never know what you'll get in the long run anyway. A friend of mine is called Gentle (definitely not a boy name), however, since she did her PhD, when she registers at a hotel, or a conference or anything as Dr Surname, the assumption is she's a man! Even to the point of putting her in a room with a male colleague - she got them to change that quick smart!
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