DD is 7 months old and has a reasonably unusual name - we know no-one else with this name at all.
DH's cousin just had her 3rd girl and named it something very common that rhymes with DD's name and is essentially spelt almost the same except for the first letter and an extra letter thrown in.
I don't want to post the actual names, but imagine something like Candi and Mandy, or Jessah and Tessa, Kay and Faye... you get the idea.
Anyway, while it doesn't really bother me that she picked a name that is so similar to DD's, I do think that if I was in that position e.g. she had her baby first, I wouldn't do that, IYKWIM. I know they are only going to be 2nd cousins, and not likely to see each other a lot, but for some reason I wouldn't pick something so similar. Especially as it's her 3rd daughter (so unlikely this is a name she's loved 'forever' and been dying to use etc). Maybe this means deep down it does actually bother me? Perhaps I should be flattered that she picked something so similar...
Has this happened to anyone else? I am being unreasonable in, perhaps, being a wee bit bothered? I guess I am just putting my thoughts out here because it's helping me to process how I really feel!
Honestly, I think its not a big deal.. Its not the same name, just rhymes.
You said yourself that they won't see each other a lot??
If however it was the same name, then I would think that to be unusual.
My friends LO's name is Ashleigh. Her sister named her LO, Isleig h. I've talked to her openly about it, and she doesn't have a problem with it, and they see eachother every second day.
Maybe if I knew the names you were talking about? Could you space between letters to avoid it coming up in a search?
I wouldn't intentionally do it myself, but I have had it done to me. My cousin called their son Lachlan James, when they already knew we had a Lachlan James.
Ok the names with a space inserted are (drum roll, ha ha)...
L iana (our DD)
and
D iahna (pronouced to rhyme exactly with DD's name).
Astrolady - did that annoy you?
TT - yeah I know, it really isn't such a big deal, especially as they won't see each other much. I think I just need to get over my surprise I guess!!
It may not have been intentional, maybe they had the names picked out already and it just a coincidence at the end of the day. i know hoe frustrating it was for me over so many years of TTC to have both my boy's name and girl's name snaffled by other family members who got pregnant first......in the end after I had spent ages picking new names I could love I said stuff it, anyone else uses them too bad....I am having it too if it happens! LOL!
Well you can sleep peacefully knowing your daughter has the nicer name hehehe
As much as I say no.. Deep down it may annoy me a little.
My son's name is T h e o, and a friend of ours (who we see easily twice a week) has told me that T h e o is at the top of their name list too (little boy due next week).
If they do, I'll be joining you on this vent. Come on, its the same name, and we see each other quite a bit!
we had Picked our boys name ( X avier) out the week that we found out he was a boy (20 weeks Pregnant) we were happy with it and had told the kids and my mum and a handful of other people and then my cousin had a little boy 2 months later and called him (X avier) we thought about it for a while but it seemed wrong for us to change his name so we kept it the same..
I dont see her very often i have never even met her kiddies so its not like there would be 2 of them in the same room
just a bit of a view from the "other" side of the fence!!
I'd be flattered more than anything. It says to me she liked your DD's name but didn't want to *exactly* copy it so she changed it slightly to avoid this. The kids aren't likely to notice even if they do see each other a fair bit. Or if they do, will likely just think it's funny not be upset about it.
In my family we have cousins named David Jonathon and Jonathan David. Neither of them are particularly worried about it.
I do know how you are feeling.
My first dd is H ayley (16) and my sister named her son B ayley (13)...I was a little put out at first that she couldn't think of something a little more original...but now I think nothing of it.
Hmm well 3 of my kids have quite popular names, so I guess I wouldn't feel too bad. But DS2 has a very original name. One I have not come across except for an old famous film director which is where I got the name from originally. If a family member or friend named their child the same or something that rhymed(though im not sure anything really does..) I would be really P'd off!
Yeah it did annoy me a first considering my Lachlan is a good year and a half older than mine, so it wasn't' like we were pregnant at the same time iywkim. It annoys my mum more, as she sees both Lachlan's regularly
I have two cousins with the same name. Same side of the family, too. When we were kids it was always "big david" and "little david". It's just what we were used to.
In DH's family, there's a Simeon and his name is shortened to Sim. We get crap for having a Samuel that we call Sam... But there's nearly 6 years difference in age and our name was picked even before the older boy was born. It seems that no matter what you do with names, someone will be unhappy.
We named our 3rd son J ack we new that DH cousin also has a son with the same name, but they live in QLD we are in VIC, I have been with DH for 9 years and haven't met them once. The only person it probably would have bothered was Dh Nan as she now has 2 great grandsons with the same name, but she had passed away. So we decided to go with it, I think if we lived closer and had more frequent contact then it would have deterred me more. But wth it being my 3rd boy I was starting to struggle for names that we both agreed on and liked.
One of the top runner names for this baby is A b i g a i l. My sisters daughter is G a b r i e l l a. DH isn't as keen on A b i g a i l any more coz if you shorten it, it'll be A b b y and G a b b y...
Another front runner is E l i z a b e t h and I was nearly put off coz a friend of our friend, who we do see and is on my facebook had her daughter about 3 months ago and named her that...
In your case, I think it's kinda flattering, and I much prefer your name xx
We had a boy's name chosen well before DH was born (we didn't know the sex). It had been a long process cos I was teaching at the time and all the names DH liked were the names of boys I was teaching or had recently taught. At 7 months pg we moved interstate to an area where a cousin of DH's lived who he was close to as a child but hadn't had anything to do with for years. He got in contact with him and it turned out he had a son the same name as what we had chosen - along with the same surname! DH and I discussed it, decided we loved the name too much to change it and reasoned we would only be in the area for 2-3 years so the boys wouldn't be growing up in the same relatively small town. It didn't seem to bother anyone, caused a bit of hilarity when we were spending time together but that was it. The hilarious thing is DH's cousin's wife was due with #2 the same day as DS, the boys were born a few days apart and they named their little boy the only other boy's name we were considering. DS's name is pretty common though. If we had another boy there is no way I would call him the name they chose for #2, even though it would of been top of our list.
I certainly wouldn't do it myself with people we know/spend time with, and I would be pinged off if someone close used the same name or close to the same name especially if it was someone we saw all the time. At least it wasn't exactly the same name, that would of been pretty bad.
And I agree with TT, your daughter has the better name!
It wouldn't bother me that they rhymed, the same name might. But we have lots of that in our family. 3 michaels, a Michelle and a mykaelah for example.
I wanted to name ds1 the same name as one of my cousins but DH doesn't like the idea of repeating the name.
Li ana is a gorgeous name by the way . It was on my girls list at one stage, i know two very cute little girls by that name.
Would you do this?
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