hi
i don't think you can really have a routine for a month old baby, my DD is 3 months and we still don't really have a routine, only when it comes to bed, bath feed sleep.
i don't know much about silent reflux, but my other DD had reflux when she was little and she used vomit alot until i put her on to a thicken formula.
we still have trouble with sleep sometimes she will put her self to sleep but most time i need to cuddle her, hopefully when we get back from holidays soon i can get her to start to sleep by her self.
I hope this helped