2 to 3 kids...challenges?

[Krisvee]

Hi!

I'm newly expecting no.3 and although I'm not too worried about it I've had a couple of people (including MIL) comment on how the jump from 2 to 3 was so much worse etc etc...

So just wanting to hear from you guys at what you thought the extra challenges were if any??

Thanks!

[New Dawn]

I did just write about this in another thread but here goes...

I found the biggest jump going from 2 to 3 is the fact that more than likely you will have #1 in school so now you will have to deal with school pick up and drop off while # 3 is trying to sleep.. That said most #3 babies I know have just sliped into their role in life as #3 and they were born knowing that they were not alone...

My throry is as follows...

When having #1 all is very quite in your tummy and once #1 come out you do all for it when #2 is in tummy all is quite as you are only talking and playing with #1 so when #2 comes out all is still good.... But when #3 is in tummy all is not quite all is very loud as #1 and #2 are fighting and you are yelling at them to stop fighting or to clean their room and whatever else you have to say and do when you have 2 so by the time #3 comes out it KNOWS it #3 so will sleep when there is alot of fighting and will learn to sleep on the move as when they come along there is still so much to do... They just seem to come out knowing and slip into life very easly...

I hope some of this made sence I have #3 climbing all over ATM...

Good luck having 3 was the best thing I ever did so enjoy it... I love it so much that she has now changed our minds now we want 4...

[Catastrophic]

hery, Congrats on your third child

I went from 0 to 3 kids within 9 months. .. I had my first child. Then me and my partner got His 5yo full time when izzy was 8 months, then when izzy was 11 months we got his 3yo full time. . .

So I went to three kids very quickly. But i actually find it easier. Because two of the children can play while i'm attending to the other ones, with things like baths or getting dressed etc. . .

The only trouble i think i will find is when they are all naughting finding enough naughty chairs lol! we only have one at the moment. Becuase usually while one son is being naughty the other is an angel then they swap lol!

I don't see how you'd have any troubles. . . Just more stuff to pack when you go out, no more seats left in a 5seater car, full house, heaps of dishes. AND Loads of washing. I wash 2 loads a day jsut to keep up lol!

[rosehannah]

Hi there, no. 3 was our surprise child, we were not trying to conceive, having said that I'm pleased she is in our lives. Yes it is tricky trying to manage school, preschool and a new bub but as has been mentioned she is quite a laid back sort of child that does seem to sleep and feed any where. One of the hardest things that I have round is keeping the little pieces of toys away from her and to get the older kids to keep doors shut, eg. the toilet door, because she's straight in there and making a mess.

[Krisvee]

Thanks so much for your replies!!

My 3 will all be very young so I won't have the school issues...only 3yo kinder which is only once or twice a week I think...

As I said I'm not too worried...we all manage regardless! LOL! It's nice to hear of personal experiences though!

LOl - I'm definitley not looking forward to more washing and more cooking though - hehe!!!

[Jo+3]

Hey Kristie,
Three really isn't that much harder than two. I found my third just fitted in. To be honest sometimes I forget she's there she's so good. I think they learn from the start that they have to wait. The only harder thing is the logistics. More room in the house, maybe a bigger car, double pram and down the track school fees and activities.$$$$$$. as you know I'm having no 4 now. After two you're outnumbered. Don't stress you'll be fine. I'm the one that should be stressing.LOL

Jo

PS
I also had alot of people comment about having three. Am just waiting for the remarks when I tell them about no 4. There is a saying "Opinions are like a@#holes. Everybody has one and thinks that their own doesn't stink"

[Krisvee]

LOL Jo! Dh already had someone call him an idiot - in more choice language than that for having no.3. I don't usually let it bother me as I love my boys and am so excited about extending our family!

Although we have had a lot of comments of - well that better be it now sort of thing...dh agrees but I'm not so sure...however that will be another battle for next year! LOL!

Louis is such a gorgeous boy I'm sure he'll be a good helper - he was with Dylan and was only so young at the time, also very patient...we have lots to teach Dylan in the next 8 months however..he's such a little terror! hehe.

[mbear]

The jump from 2-3 is defn noticeable....like others have said, more washing, more nappies, more food to be bought.....all that kinda stuff. Its harder to go to the shops, on outings you no longer have DH looking after one and you looking after the other - 3 outweighs 2 !!!!Going to the shops is difficlutl......but i do it.

EVERY time i go to the shops with my 3 in toe i get at least one comment 'wow, youve got your hands full'......yes, i do have my hands full, but i enjoy it. People have seemed shocked when i say that all 3 of them are still at home (DD#1 goes to school next year). TBH some days we arent dressed till 10am - how i could possibly get one out the door to school whilst having a newborn i would never know. Im glad i have had my 3 close together, and all under school age. Its nice to be able to say some days 'we're having a day at home today'....coz as of next year, and for the next 15 years or so, i wont be able to say that now will i ?? LOL !!!

[Krisvee]

Hmm - I'm lucky to have the kids and I dressed by 10am now!! So maybe I'll aim for 11am when the next one arrives - LOl! How true when 1 starts going to school - you have to be organised by 8.30am every morning!! Gosh....Hmmm I shall enjoy these next couple of years then! Hehe.

[bon]

To be honest I didnt find having #3 to be a big change. There were a couple of things though, like more washing and I was a lot more tired than I was with the first two - mainly from having to get up during the night not only to Matilda, but also to the other two for various reasons. Also shopping with the 3 of them is not fun! But overall Matilda just slotted in and of course we wouldn't change a thing. Now we are thinking about #4!

[aussienic]

I found the jump from 2 to 3 was fine

My eldest was older though.

I did find the jump from 3-4 a huge difference. I had a 4yr old, 2 yr old and a newborn.. My eldest was 8.

I still manage to get out the door by 8 when needed.. or earlier if need be..

we just take the day as it comes

[PlonkeeMumma]

Have been reading this thread with interest as i have days when i have a little panic about how i will cope with 3 under 4. My DH has been getting lots of comments from work colleagues about how much harder 3 is than 2 so i think he is panicking more. Have to admit i'm worrying more about how i will cope with the current 2 when i am heavily pregnant with this one!

Good luck krisvee!

Julie x

[tan32]

Number three will be interesting for me as well, as i have one at school and the other at kindy. We have a hard enough time now making sure they are out the door in time for school,DH starts work at 7 so is no help in the morning. Ive started already by making lunches the night before, getting uniforms washed and set out ready for the morning, and oh my def no TV on.
Im lucky though as i will get time to spend with this one on my own, and with DD turning 10 not long after the birth Ill always have a keen helper.

[Naomi]

I found having #3 easy too, he just goes with the flow and always has.
Now he sometimes gets cranky if we have to be somewhere after the others are dropped off at kindy (he still loves his sleep LOL) but apart from that he's an angel.
Another thing, his brothers absolutely adore him and are always playing with him and reading to him, so he's always occupied while i'm cooking dinner etc.