21 month old- temper

[alex'smum]

Hi there,
I am new to these forums, so bare with me!

My LO (alex) has suddenly become the devil spawn one minute then an angel the next.
The main thing is he has started wanting to be picked up ALL the time, but mainly he is just "using" me to get to something up high. I swear he tries to "drive" me around to where he needs me. His favorite word is NO, and GOD FORBID when I do not understand the baby babble.
He has become more clingly than he ever has been, although nothing has changed, I work and he goes to daycare 4 days a week, and I am not with his father (havnt been since I was PG) and he sees him most saturdays, and will often stay the night.

I am not sure wht I have done wrong! He is melting down every time I cant pick him up eg when cooking

I think this post is rambling and doesn't make sense....hopefully not too badly and someone can help me out IS THIS NORMAL!!!

[Junglemum]

i hope it's normal because it sound a lot like my 22 month old. She has no concept of 'in a minute', or 'sorry i can't pick you up right now i'm cooking'
When things don't go her way she thrown herself on the ground and sobs.
I am hoping, for both our sakes, it is just a stage! I guess as they get older and become more aware that they can make demands then they do just that. Patience is not innate, it is a learnt skill. So i'm hoping my daughter learns soon!


Oh and welcome to BB.

[alex'smum]

Hey thanks for the reply, I am starting to think it is me causing this, so good to know I am not alone!
Just watching his face go from smiley to the most desperate sad face ever SUCKS!!

[Junglemum]

i know what you mean. But i think this is just the tip of the iceberg for the next few months or so. i believe we are entering the 'terrible twos'.

My daughter has been having public meltdowns lately if she can't have her way. She did her first throw-yourself-on-the-floor screaming tantrum in safeway the other day because i wouldn't let her have orange juice!

[Lolli]

Normal in my house too Ds is, of course, the centre of the universe and doesn't seem to understand that the world does not revolve around him.

Definately not your fault alex'smum. I think it's just them pushing the boundaries of their independance. but it's very difficult and very frustrating some days

[kawazuki]

ill join in here and say yep my DD is the same lol

then after her tantrum she gets up and is the angel again and giggling and talking to me lol

i just ignore her tantrums now they only last 30 seconds now and then i get down and say you finished or does mummy need to go back to doing her thing lol

i usually get a sowwy mummy and cuddle lol or she goes hmm ok and runs away and plays in teh lounge room lol

[Turkish Delight]

I hear you all!

My DD who is 24 months, has tanties over everything, She is bossy, wants everything her way, wants everything to be hers, when we build blocks hers has to be the tallest and not fall!

She will throw herself, doesn't matter where, isn't concerned if she is hurt, she screams, cries.

So, i guess we have approaced the terrible twos.

[AnyDream]

I hope it's normal too cos it sounds just like my 22mth old!!

Re the cooking, often DD just wants to get up to see what's happening. I let her stand on a stepstool at the end of the kitchen bench and give her some implements and food to play with. This seems to keep her occupied for a bit.