Oh wow you sound just like me - I was having panic attacks in the latter stages of my pregnancy with #2 as well! Very normal
I had lots of help in the first week or so, just until I realised I could do it, it would be ok. Yes there were times when little man was crying and I had to put him down and deal with DD, but he survived Like HotI, my toddler was more high needs than my baby (that has swapped now though!!) and I agree when she says the temperaments of your kids will dictate a lot of your actions.
Take it one day at a time. When your day starts, think "What will I achieve today?" and if all you put on your little list is "Happy and healthy baby and toddler" then that's ok. That's huge in the first few weeks!!!
At 3, your older bub will probably be more involved than mine was, too. My oldest is now 3, she'll be 3.5 when #3 arrives and she is right into this pregnancy. She kisses my tummy goodnight and says "Goodnight baby!" and she's coming to my scan tomorrow. So I'm expecting she will be very keen to "help" this time around!
Thanks everyone for your feedback, it is throughly appreciated.
i know that once the baby is here it will be ok, but at the moment my fears of what it will be like are over taking everything. i will have lots of help at least from my family (seriously the in-laws are hopeless!!!) and on the positive at least i won't have to work for a while LOL. Hello trackies and bed head.
You've definately helped me to know that it's all going to be ok.
You know what? Having a baby 2nd time around is so different! You are already a mum, you know what sleep deprivation entails, etc it's all been done before!
You will surprise yourself at how you adjust with #2, like I did
Yes your relationship with your first child will change but its for the best as they learn about sharing having a sibling, and you realise how much love you have to give!!
Wait til you see the two siblings interacting with each other and playing! And when they make the baby smile in those early weeks! It's unreal!!!
My little girl was only 2yrs 3mths so we had a closer gap.
Like HotI, my toddler was more high needs than my baby (that has swapped now though!!) and I agree when she says the temperaments of your kids will dictate a lot of your actions.
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