All I can say is THANK GOD someone else is going through this. It's almost exactly like my daughter. The world evolves around her!! Though we try not to let it too much. The big thing I have changed is to offer choices (which I already did ) but after doing this maybe once or twice I then leave her and say " I will come back in 1 minute and by then you have to make a choice" It avoids major agruments and let sme cool down for a bit. Doesn't always work but was better than what we were doing. Hang in there - I am just praying and hoping this behaviour will end sooner rather than later!