4 years olds and wiping ones bottom...

[Phteven]

Until about a month ago Mr4 flatly refused to wipe his own bum. If I told him to do it himself he would sit on the loo screaming for as long as it took for me to crack and do it for him.
Now he does it himself but without the wiggles wipes he doesn't do a great job so I usually ask him if I can check and finish it up if needed.

He's pretty good with hand washing unless he's in a hurry.

[Olive]

ausgirl sorry should have said i wiped probably up until maybe 9 months ago, but it seems many friends her age dont wipe now at 4

[Jennifer13]

DD can do it all herself and has for quite a while, but TBH if she does a poo while she's at home I encourage her to call me and let me wipe (or at least check). I'm concerned she might not clean herself properly (sometimes she's really good, but others...). Reaching around the back is a bit harder. I'm more worried she'll give herself a UTI, since she's entirely responsible for her night time washing in the bath/shower.

All of her little preschool friends toilet themselves completely independently while at preschool, including wiping.

[Nelle]

R is not so great but I'm the one who bugged him to do it himself and now he doesn't let me check! I probably shouldbug him more about hand washing...I just have to make sure I notice when he goes to the loo!

Kaz R used to just hang over the edge too, so we did a bit of encouraging him to pee every time his dad, and so they'd pee together and R would end up copying his dad. If you gave him something to aim for, like a pingpong ball, do you think that would motivate him?

[Just Me]

My DD1 took until about 2 months ago to use the toilet for poos but it all just clicked with her and she started wiping her own bottom as soon as she figured out how to poo on the toilet (I have never wiped her bottom since she has been out of nappies). She is also independent with hand washing. We have a flick mixer on our bathroom sink though and I have explained to her about the cold side and the hot side but because they are so easy to push onto hot, I usually watch her wash her hands just to make sure that she is okay. We have our hot water system turned down so I don't think she can burn herself, but I am still paranoid.

[Nai]

DD1 has really long arms so she's been wiping by herself for a while now. Sometimes she doesn't do so well but she is usually ok at it. She is also very independent so doesn't like me doing it - I think she was 3.5 when she decided she wanted to do it herself!