9 Month old bedtime separtion anxiety?

[Lily Dust]

Hey Ery

DD is screaming her brains out too atm! I have been rocking her to sleep for about 3 weeks now, she still get angry and tries to squirm away but isnt so sad after about 30 seconds. If DH goes near her at night she gets frantic and thrashes until she sees me....gosh that sounds terrible but you get what I mean. He can do anything at all with her except rock her to sleep or pat her head to sleep she will only let me. She also wont have a bar of him through the night and howls until she gets me. It is so frustrating because you just dont know what the hell went wrong. Sweetheart, you are doing a great job please dont doubt yourself on that, Im sure it must be a stage if they are both doing it now, especially being about 12 hours apart in age! . Maybe you could try rocking her? I had to do this at about 6months for a few weeks too and then as quickly as it started, it disappeared. I know I haven't really given you an answer but wanted you to know that you arent alone xx

[MantaRay]

Hun, I seem to recall each of my DS's going through something similar at around 9 months too. I think it is an age where separation anxiety can be a big deal. How would you feel about lying down with her until she's asleep, or co-sleeping with her for a while until things settle down. It's a phase that will pass, but it will be much easier on her (and you ) if she has lots of reassurance in the meantime.

Take care hun

[Razzberry]

Thanks for your thought girls. I am too afraid to co-sleep incase she gets used to it and I can't get her out of my bed!! I did it last night in an act of desperation but then she just wanted to play, at least she wasn't screaming but was still awake!
Lily - I know what you mean about DH. She just ants me at the moment which is exhausting - just hope it passes quickly!!!