Advice from 2nd time mums please...

[christy]

TBH it's not twice as hard with 2 it's at leat 3 times as hard but it's so rewarding when you see your babies give each other a cuddle and watch them playing and laughing together.

Ditto, Ditto, Ditto.

When I got pregnant I had all sorts of worries. Our DD1 was/is a handful, heaps of sleep issues and behaviour problems. I was also worried that I would be so caught up with her that I wouldn't have time for the baby.

When Jovie first came, I couldn't spend as much time with her. She was often left in the rocker or hammock while I dealt with what Matilda was doing, but now as she's older I seem to be able to spend time daily with both of them. Its beautiful seeing the two of them in the bath giggling together... sometimes DH & I look at each other & say "we are in soooo much trouble!"

[Tobily]

I agree with the other ladies especially what Dach said about "love multiplies, it doesn't divide" - it's so very true. You just keep making more love for each child.

I also agree that somehow two is three times harder, it was very much so for me. I had a very easy first child and the second one, while not difficult, has a more demanding personality and also had some pretty major sleep issues for a while so I did find the adjustment harder than I initially expected to.

But things have a way of working themselves out and I cope just fine now - even though for his first three months I wondered daily what the hell we'd done. I loved him of course, but I did struggle with the day to day stuff.

Yesterday my two were lying on the floor together and Toby snuggled into Emily's neck and gave her a cuddle. She patted him on the back and said "I love you too Toby"....it's moments like that when you realise what a gift you've given your older child in their sibling

Congrats on the bfp too!