Agressive Behaviour in 14mth old - I am on my knees and need some help

[Salad]

thanks amberj thats the book I have ordered.

Olive - I took her to the doctor earlier in the week and have ruled this and throat issues out. I should have mentioned that. It was one of the other things on my list of could be problems.

[Snacks]

Is she a routine kind of girl? I wonder if the extra house guests might have gotten her out of routine, or perhaps she is transitioning into a new routine and can't get settled into it just yet?
I find my DD's behaviour is at it's most challenging when she hasn't had enough sleep. So for me, I find sleep to be the key factor when trying to sort out behaviour issues.
If it were me, I would try to sort out an appropriate routine (and for us at this age we were transitioning to 1 sleep per day. I think she was about 16 months). Our routine has generally been to have some sort of activity in the morning, a sleep in the afternoon (and sometimes the way to establish this was to get her into the stroller with a biscuit in hand) and then a structured dinner, bath, story, teeth, bed routine.
Possibly this isn't at all what you're after, but thought I'd share anyway. I can imagine it must be so hard on you seeing her hurt herself and not knowing how on earth to stop it. I just hope it resolves for you soon and that you find an effective solution.

[Arcadia]

Grapes! Yes they're bad! We banned them here because of bad behaviour too!! Let us know how you go.

The biting sounds teeth related. Dd always bites when teething. I recommend nurofen. Panadol does nothing for us.

Hope things improve for you.

[Shanti]

Hmmm reading this thread with lots of interest. We too have some problems at the moment with DD getting frustrated at us alot and screaming at us alot like today.... it was a really long day. Very exhausting and I was totally ready to hand her over to someone else!!!!
She eats ALOT of grapes..... hmmmm..... off to research. No more grapes here then.
We are starting baby sign language because we feel perhaps she is so frustrated she cant' communicate with us? she says lots of words etc and very good with sounds etc but perhaps she's just frustrated with not being able to express herself further just yet? Perhaps this is the case with your DD too.
We too, have alot of sleep issues here... waking 3-4 times a night.

hang in there.

[Salad]

Shanti - I thought the same thing here with the sign lanuage. Last night - no grapes before bed and we got 12 hours straight sleep out of her, I still didnt sleep properly because I was expecting her to wake up but nope, slept like a log. Today no grapes either or food with 160b (e.g. cheese slices) in it and it is like I have a different child, like my little girl used to be. The 160b is linked to head butting, which she has been doing, just smashes her head against concrete walls etc when she is frustrated. Also no biting today.
It is very much worth cutting out grapes and seeing if it may affect your little one. Its the salicylate in them and also present in other fruit and vegies that is why grapes affect people, do a google search and some interesting info comes up.

Arcadia - I am still just blown away with something so simple such as grapes being a problem, you think you are giving your kids something healthy for them and it ends up being something nasty.

[Shanti]

Arcadia - I am still just blown away with something so simple such as grapes being a problem, you think you are giving your kids something healthy for them and it ends up being something nasty.

Exactly!! DD loves grapes! and cheese....

[Salad]

Yep my DD too and they were such a quick and easy snack.