I had the same problem with Kaitlyn and I ended up sewing some of my own wraps. Hard to explain but the wrap had little pockets I would slot her arms into so she was snug and would not get her arms out ..plus she could not really wiggle our of it. Sounds like she was in a straight jacket but let me tell you she LOVED it . I think you can buy something that is similar in baby stores..I just had never seen it so I made my own haha....things we do !