if she has any information i would really appreciate it!
thanks
so stressful when you don't know what to do! i mean i don't want to cc at all but i can't be tied to him forever... my concern is re childcare (or a nanny, i am looking for one) won't be able to get him to nap.
Nox, I really don't think you should have to cc to get him to settle for anyone else. There are ways and means of going about it without resorting to cc. It's just finding the resources that don't tell you you need to cc IYKWIM! Any good nanny will find his/her own way of settling your bub, it just might take a bit of time (like it takes us new mums LOL).
If you really want to go to a sleep school I would recommend either O'Connell House in Camberwell or the Queen Elizabeth Centre in Noble Park. I went to QEC (google it - they have lots of info about what they do on their site). They do NOT do CC but they teach comforting strategies that we found worked in our house. I've heard that Tweddle call it "Comforted crying" that other sleep schools do as well but they don't and it is actually timed crying
If you want any other info let me know.
At my mothers group the nurse thing used to work at Tweddle and the advice we were given is CC. I was so disgusted she encouraging to CC with our 6 week olds that I didn't go back.
Oh i def don't want to do any cc... i am nervous even with the name sleep school -- but are saying they DON"T do any cc and it still worked for you?
i will look that up. i thought that a program that comes to you would be eaiser did you find going there ok?
another thing i have heard is that it all stuffs up like any sleep does with teething colds etc.. so i am actually wondering if sleep schools help? i mean his night sleeps are fine adn naps are fine but the techniques of getting there seems to be difficult.
i hear you about any 'good nanny' but that seems to be precisely the problem i am having. i can't find one!! i'll take suggestions there too!
Nox, I was so nervous about the words sleep school that I didn't go until my DS was a week off turning one LOL. I went to a MCHN centre in my area, who uses nurses from the O'Connell centre. They were great, and really try to work out a plan that you can use comfortably. They say there's no point in getting you to do something that you can't continue on with at home! That being said, we most of the time use our own methods to get him to sleep, because it's faster, but it's good to know that he can and will settle for other people. He's not the sort of kid you can just stick in the cot wide awake and know that he'll go to sleep, but that's okay, that's who he is!
FWIW, although sleep school was helpful to us, we probably could have lived without it. But I say that in hindsight, at the time I was pretty frustrated. I'm much more relaxed now about his sleep patterns. It's easier when they're older though.
ETA Nox, seeing as you're in Melbourne, have a look at Pinky McKay's website You might find what you're looking for there.
I have looked at Pinky's site, read her books and been to her seminars. While I find her incredibly comforting adn reassuring, what I didn't fid was strategies that would be specific to us. My DS sounds the same -- I laugh (and cry) when I hear about babies who just go to sleep ... so not the case with our either!
Maybe I should also relax and realise at this age if he doesn't get his naps the world wont' fall apart and he will sleep ... it is frustrating though because then if he falls asleep at 4 or 5 pm he won't go to bed until late adn that is when I get most of my work done, then he may sleep late, which then sets the whole cycle.
Maybe sleep school techniques that are gentle as you suggest from O'Connell House or QEC are worth looking into. I am closer to the Camberwell one. I have also emailed Pinky to ask if my situation is worth a consult.
Can I ask you about O'Connell House -- what do they do and how? DId you spend any time listening to crying?
I went to Twedle earlier this year, and if they say they dont do controlled crying, they are lying! Thats exactly what it was!
I was told to put DD down in the cot wide awake, and walk out of the room. When she started crying, I could go in there, and pat her and make sshhh noises till she calmed down, but couldnt pick her up or look her in the eye. When she calmed down, I was told to walk out of the room (this took about 30 mins), and then if she started crying again, wait a few more minutes, and repeat the process. If this isnt controlled crying, I don't know what is!
I would definitely look into the other schools, cause I dont think Tweddle will give you what u are looking for. Let us know how you go!
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