Thanks girls - I think I just needed some encouragement from other mummies that yes, this is normal! After a while it gets you down when people always comment on it. Snowy I like your idea and Sloane I really do love that she is super cuddly - having waited so long and gone through so much to have her, I am happy to give her lots of cuddles I definitely don't want to force her to go to other people, usually once she gets upset I give her a few seconds to see if she'll calm down i.e. I don't snatch her back immediately haha, then she comes back to me. Always stops crying straight away, cheeky little monkey!!

Ok so feeling much more positive about this now - thanks BB as usual!