(Not sure if this is the best place to post this - please move it if you think it belongs somewhere else)

I am finding myself freaking out a bit at the lack of hygeine people have around my DS (5 months).

Some examples
1. at a cafe, his aunt was letting him pat his hands on the cafe table.
2. the same aunt let DS suck on her fingers after she had just gotten back from a run and was all sweaty and had just patted her dog!
3. I have a blanket that I lie down at people's houses when we visit for DS to play on so that he isn't rolling about on some germy floor. When I do this at my parents place, everyone 'respects' that space and walks around the blanket, however when we visit DH's family, everyone seems to think it's fine to walk on the blanket!

I'm getting really p!ssed off by this - I mean, why do they think I put the blanket down for?! Why do they think I bother to sterilise DS's dummy? Why do they think I use hand sanitiser before handling bub if I can't wash my hands? My family also take care to make sure they have washed their hands before cuddling bub, etc, where DH's family are happy to let DS suck on their dirty sweaty hands! eek!

My logic tells me that if a young baby should have it's bottles, dummies, etc sterilised, surely their play space should be kept as clean as possible too - and not trampled over by shoes/feet that have also walked over goodness knows what! BUT DH seems to think I'm just a bit anal about this sort of thing!

Anyway, what do you think? Be honest! Am I a normal mummy or am I too obsessive about hygeine around my bub??

Also, if I am normal and right to want to keep hygeine around DS, how can I tactfully tell these people to keep off, or wash their hands, or whatever?!!

Thanks for reading and thanks in advance for your opinions and advice.