we always said we'd try again when DD1 was 12 months, but the time came and we just werent ready! we loved spending time with DD and wanted to enjoy her for a little longer before adding to our family, we have 2.3 yr gap and i love it!! DD1 TT not long after DD2 was born,(which was hard work but well worth it) shes independant, plays well, understands alot, maked life easier, we have hard days but not as many as i anticipated, only you and DH know whats right for you!!

ETA mel i had those days too!!