Thanks girls for your replies.

Yesterday a miracle happened. She was actually so settled. We had our 6-8 week check up at the clinic sister and I suggested to her that maybe she has reflux. My first had this so I was aware of what to do and was keeping her elevated. The thing we did differently last night was put a pillow under her head on the change table (clinic sister suggested this) and OMG NO SCREAMING.

DF was also able to feed her and put her to bed. Oh the other thing is she was feeding every 2 hours and has seemed to slip into a bit of a routine so hopefully that sticks as it will work out well when the kids go back to school.

But I will definatley try everyones suggestions next time it happens...

Wish me luck