For all those who are gentle settling parents - yes it takes time and effort, but eventually it comes good - my son has been sleeping through beautifully, and in his own room now, after being a co-sleeping, breastfed boy. He was never the best of sleepers, especially 0-12 months. But it is really satisfying to look back and say we did it in a way that worked for all of us, and that it was worth the time and effort