Okay... the question first asked is it cruel to be gentle.... so lets answer that one

I think Lucy said something we need to really stick too, there are so many people out there, relatives, friends, random people in the shops) who try to tell us what the best way to parent our children is. We hear so much about how something we are doing is wrong. I think its really important for us to start to learn how to take a breath & say, you know what if that is what is working for you... okay.

We may not have children who respond to things that we want to do. And we have to adjust accordingly (or grieve in my case ) but we don't need to tell anyone else what they are doing is "wrong"... well okay unless it medically is LOL.

So... IMO, CC isn't the best thing for children. Having a child who still wakes during the night at 3 and having tried CC thats my opinion. I don't want to put that opinion on anyone else, but that is my experience....