someone was telling me the other day that they saw a 'controlled crying' nurse who stayed at their house and helped her through it. the nurse was saying to her that it was her job to teach the baby how to sleep and it's her fault that the baby was tired and cranky because she hadnt taught it to sleep by itself and that as a result it wouldnt learn and develop as much as a sleepful baby and this was her fault also.....

she was pleased with this experience and it worked for her and her baby but i kept thinking if somone said that to me i would be devasted. it made me think though, am i being selfish for doing it the gentle way (because its easier to wack her on the boob, let her sleep in my bed etc) than get her to fast track and learn to sleep by herslef through other methods?

i know in my heart of hearts i am doing it the right way for us and we are making progress little by little but it got me thinking.....