The BIG sleep issue....why do we taunt ourselves over it??

[meow]

I just say, well don't complain to me unless you are going to do something about it, and if you aren't going to do something about it, then stop complaining.

I dunno, when I was crazy sleep deprived with my first son sleep was ALL I could think & talk about so I complained a fair bit. I just wanted a sympathetic ear though as I had no intention of 'doing something about it'. I know some mums in my mother's group didn't like hearing from me because they felt like you but I think women should be able to talk honestly about hard the lack of sleep can be without being expected to try and 'fix it' and sleep train their child.

[~Minny~]

I dunno, when I was crazy sleep deprived with my first son sleep was ALL I could think & talk about so I complained a fair bit. I just wanted a sympathetic ear though as I had no intention of 'doing something about it'. I know some mums in my mother's group didn't like hearing from me because they felt like you but I think women should be able to talk honestly about hard the lack of sleep can be without being expected to try and 'fix it' and sleep train their child.

Totally agree here lol, DD was a crap sleeper but nowhere near as bad as DS. I whinge and complain about it all the time but once its out of my system im back to normal i just need to whinge and vent to get on with things. I wont do anything to fix it because it would mean even less sleep than im getting now so im happy to just complain and plod along i know one day there sleep gets better DD is a great sleeper now!

[sloane]

i hate that it's the first question people asked for a long time after DS was born - is he a good baby? well, yes of course he's a good baby...oh, so he sleeps well then?

what i also hate that is that i have let some of it get to me & even though i know it's not true, i still feel a bit like a failure as a mum because my son does not sleep 'well'.

[Erin_25]

Meow, that is exactly what I mean. I would be happy to chat to my friend about how hard it is....gosh I'm up more than I am asleep at night & I have a almost 4yr old who does not nap during the day...so no rest for me. But seems everyone wants to talk about how to 'fix it'.........

[~Hestia~]

I think some people feel if their babies are sleeping through, then they're doing a good job. If they admit their babies are waking at night and they don't know what to do, then somehow everyone will think they're not coping. Not saying everyone thinks like this but this is what I have found in my group of friends.

It is annoying though when that's all people have to say about babies though!