I haven't really had any problems like this, although DD who is almost one quite often cries if I hand her over to daddy. She's fine with him most of the time, he looks after her a lot on his own etc, she likes hanging out with him. Just sometimes I'll carry her in and ask him to hold her while I run her bath or something and she'll look at me then cry but as soon as I'm out of sight, she's fine.
I'm thinking that maybe if you hold her every time she cries when she's with your DH, she might be starting to realise that if she cries, she gets to go back to mummy. Similar to what happens to babies when at night they get taken out of the cot for cuddles if they cry, they soon put two and two together and cry more in the hopes for more cuddles in the night. Maybe you could give her to DH then walk out the room, don't make eye contact with her, and go and occupy yourself with something for a few minutes, and just let her cry for a while. Resist the urge to go in and comfort her, and see what happens. Then come back and rather than automatically going and taking her off DH, just sit next to them on the lounge or something. It might have become a habit for her to cry when she's with DH coz she knows she'll get cuddled by you if she does. Worth a try, I suppose.
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