Amanda I sympathise, Flynn went through this at about 8 months.

I am not in favour of controlled crying, but ever since he was real little Flynn didn't like being rocked, touched or cuddled when he was tired. Kind of like me - I like to be left alone to go to sleep. I realised that my being in the room with him was distracting for him so we spent one night putting him down to sleep and going in every 30 seconds or so, picking him up if he really got up set, singing to him, rocking him to calm then putting him into bed, and so on, but essentially letting him cry a little on his own without us there. He was crying because he was tired, I think, more than because I wasn't there. He still does this now, he will lie in his cot and rub his eyes and cry in a real tired way, roll away from me and cry, and close his eyes and sleep.

So Amanda, maybe Cody doesn't like having you "in his face" when he is tired, iykwim? I am not saying my approach is the best but it worked for Flynn, and now he tends to go to sleep pretty well (that said he was up about 8 times a night for the past few days cause he has a cold, but I think you are going thru something different from the sounds of it).

I know how you feel, and I hope you find a way to get sane (hugs)