I think you have to go with what your heart says honestly. I was told by others the same thing, only to find its had the opposite effect, leaving Matilda to cry has always made her more anxious & has never solved any problems.

There is a lot of new information out there about the difference between controlled crying & comforting your child to sleep. Have a read of this article here and of our gentle forums to find alternatives to controlled crying.

Also, read some books to help you decide what is best for you. I read books coming from both sides of the argument (as it can get to be a heated debate ).

Personally, I found that the ones that rang true to my heart were written by Pinky McKay. Parenting by Heart was a big help to me in the early early days of Matilda's life. I also read Baby Love, and Baby Wise in those first weeks... but I haven't found those to be as helpful to me personally.