From co-sleeping to cot...HELP!

[beansbeans!]

hi all;
My DD was the same, i would feed to sleep then get up and try and put her in her bed. The second her head hit the mattress she would wake and scream until we got her. So I would feed her on a pillow, then when sheh finished feeding and was asleep i would pick the pillow up with her on it, trying to keep her as flat as possible, and put pillow and DD in bed. So she now sleeps on her pillow in her bed. She loves it. I have been doing this for around six months now, and it works 95% of the time.
Now though she is 10months old and she is rolling off the pillow which is what is waking her up, so now we go in there once she is asleep and has rolled over just enough to get the pillow out from underneath her. And she sleeps so much better!!!
Not for everyone , but could be worth a try!
hth

[Damo]

Ok, I don't want to start an argument here, but after general information.

Why do you guys endorse co-sleeping?

Seems to me that the problems you're having now, converting them to a cot, would not be happening if they were never 'co-slept'?

[beansbeans!]

Ok, I don't want to start an argument here, but after general information.

Why do you guys endorse co-sleeping?

Seems to me that the problems you're having now, converting them to a cot, would not be happening if they were never 'co-slept'?

I love co-sleeping with DD, it is one of the most beautiful things in the world. Just so special.
BUT DD has never slept well in her cot, in actual fact, she sleeps much better with us, and we sleep better. However i start her off in her cot, with the ultimate goal that she will sleep through the night there, but if she does wake she is more than welcome to join us in bed. She knows that she can have cuddles whenever she wants.
BUT co-sleeping has never played a part for us when it comes to quality and or quantity of sleep in her cot.

[brightstar79]

Our DS had reflux and it meant that it was a lot easier to get a bit of sleep if he was with us. He seemed to be happier knowing we were next to him especially when he was in pain and not feeling well. I also enjoy the closeness. Now that he is older we put him in his cot until he wakes around 1amish. During the day he will sleep in his cot if he is really tired. At the end of the day co-sleeping saved us from a lot of lost sleep, which I and mu husband needed as I am now back working

[chocolatecatty]

Nella - I could be way off but do you think it could be a cot thing? Having slept in a bed until now, perhaps a cot seems way crazy to him? Have you thought about a bed with a bed rail/guard? He might be more comfortable being in a familiar sleeping environment? Just a thought....and I must admit I've never co-slept so feel free to disregard my query!!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

If DS has an unsettled night I give him cot play time in the day (when I'm putting his clothes away for example) - he bounces on the mattress, he has his cot-only toys there, he's magically settled again that night. If I don't he's unsettled again.

DS has a cotbed, I will sometimes climb into the bed with him and move myself when he's asleep. Actually, I climb in every night for his story and we snuggle up to read it which REALLY settles him well. But sometimes I need to get back in until he's properly asleep.

We co-slept for 10m until DS wanted to stop and he always started off in his own crib/cot, mostly because he went to bed before DH and me. I love co-sleeping; not only do I get more sleep because I don't have to get out of bed we get loads of cuddles. It helps to regulate a baby's system and thus reduces the risk of SIDS, it helps set up the brain chemical system so co-sleeping babies are happier babies as well as learning a diurnal rhythm; they may not sleep through but they know day from night. It makes children more secure and lets them know they can always turn to their parents rather than there are times you're not wanted - imagine knowing you're not wanted by your parents ever!

The main downside of co-sleeping with a toddler is getting kicked as he wiggles. That's the only one I can think of.

Also many children have trouble crib to cot, or cot to bed - the problems are a new place to sleep, not co-sleeping to not.

[boomba]

Damo,

no need for debate, we as parents do what we believe is right for our children and being curious as to how others parent is totally cool!

Co sleeping is a very natural thing. I suggest you read the "science of paretning", "helping your baby to sleep", just to name a few and this may shed some light on why we choose to co sleep!

The reasons behind us trying to get Ds to sleep in his cot is DH is having trouble sleeping and is a shift worker. I dont mind it when ds comes in after dad has gone to work! But like most parents we all wish our babies slept for 12 hours straight hey! co sleeping or not ds would be up at least 3 times a night! So cosleeping gives us both more sleep! iykwim?

Hope this has given you a little insight into co sleeping!

Sanp rosehip you must have been reading my mind! everything i wanted to say but couldnt! lol

I love co-sleeping; not only do I get more sleep because I don't have to get out of bed we get loads of cuddles. It helps to regulate a baby's system and thus reduces the risk of SIDS, it helps set up the brain chemical system so co-sleeping babies are happier babies as well as learning a diurnal rhythm; they may not sleep through but they know day from night. It makes children more secure and lets them know they can always turn to their parents rather than there are times you're not wanted - imagine knowing you're not wanted by your parents ever!

[No.5]

I love co-sleeping & whether you co-sleep or not, moving a child into a new bed/environment is always difficult.
I think DS will be co-sleeping until he's ready for his toddler bed
So far, no success with the cot but luckily its a 2-in-1 & will go straight to a toddler bed so didn't waste any money on it