Interesting Cass and yes you can go a few ways with it. Everything you have mentioned definitely falls within the spectrum of normal. But you are thinking something is up which tweaks my concerns. I do believe that like percentiles. For there to be a average there has to be a perfectly normal 99%er and a perfectly normal 1%er. No idea if I am making sense. Is she different to her sisters? So what? Is she different to your friends child, thank goodness we don't all behave the same way in social gatherings. She may always be shy.

But again you feel 'something' is up. Are you happy to wait it out or are you asking for advice on who to see next?

Also her neuro concerns would have a hangover effect on you all. Sounds like its been a terribly stressful time. Are you over analysing everything? Are the drs missing something?

Hugs hon. I'm always interested to read more if sharing helps you muddle thru your concerns x