Hi Bek

I hear you totally regarding your concerns about how you will cope with going from one to two children. I stressed majorly before DS2 and DD were born ( I still stress LOL). My DS was 21 months when DS2 came along and then DS2 was 14 months when DD arrived. Life certainly is very full on but it is definitely do-able.

How am I going to be able to bf with a toddler around?
I made up a breast feeding bag for DS1 when DS2 was born and I now use it for DS2 while I am feeding DD- in the bag include snacks, tissues, books, TV remotes, phone, toys etc that you keep in a bag next to you while you are feeding your nb that way you wont have to be getting up and down to attend to your DD whilst you are trying to feed. I pull things out of the bag to keep DS1 and 2 entertained and out of mischief.

How can I keep DD occupied and happy whilst attending to nb?
Definitely get your DD to help you - whether it be getting nappies or bibs or what ever - they love helping. Dont feel guilty if you have to out a DVD or ABC kids etc on for a few minutes if you need to keep your DD busy and out of your hair.

How can I get all the house works done?(I am a house tidy freak)
Get a cleaner for a while and prioritise your cleaning/housework - make a realistic list each day so you feel like you are achieving something cleaning wise but make sure it isnt over the top. I know it annpyed me when people said dont worry about the cleaning - leave it etc etc becasue having a dirty house stresses me out so I made sure I did little bits each day to keep on top of it. Also get your DH to do his bit as well.

How am I ever going to get out of the house for appointments?
I found this really scary and it took a lot of practice to achieve (still does) but I make sure I am organised the night before and start getting ready with heaps of time to spare. Be super organised so getting as much done the night before is really important.

How do I establish a good workable routine?
This will happen in good time. You sound like an organised person so I am sure that given time you will establish a routine that suits all of you.

How am I going to get dinner on the table?
I try and get dinner ready during the afternoon while everyone is sleeping/resting. ALthough if I am too tired I rest and give them a quick to make sort of meal rather than a fully cooked type of meal. Also cook in advance/freeze meals/get take away once a week if it is going to ease the pressure.

It is really daunting but organisation is the key and not putting too mcuh pressure on yourself - try and go with the flow (easier said that done I know) and do what works for you.

Good luck and we are all here for you.
take care
Jem