I think you should see it as a very big compliment. They must love the name if they still wish to use it and I think they have done the polite thing by running it by you first. My advice is be gracious about it and you never know they may change their mind in the 11th hour - and you have not risked any kind of resentment in your friendship.
When I was pg the first time, DH had a boy's name he had wanted to use for as long as I have known him (20 odd years). It was only a month or so before Jack was born, after much discussing names, that I agreed we would use Jack. A couple of days later the wife of a friend was speaking to DH. These friends had been ttc for 2 or 3 years. Sam asked DH if we had decided on names. DH said yes but we weren't saying what they were. Then Sam said that she would use the name Jack if she ever had a son. DH didn't even tell me this until after Jack was born. At that stage there was no way we were changing names. These friends are interstate anyway so it wouldn't really matter if we all used the same name. But after Jack was born the Sam didn't talk to us for ages. Another friend said she was annoyed we had used the name Jack (although I think there was also a lot of jealousy at us having a bub while they were still ttc). Anyway, a year later they had twins, one a boy and used a different name so I guess it wasn't a big deal anyway.
If you see a lot of the friends I can see that it would be difficult. But I think it depends on whether they had already wanted the name before you used it or not. If they had their heart set on the name for years then maybe it's ok for them to use it. If they have only liked it since you used it, then it's a bit weird and I think they should find another name.
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