hhmm personally if a friend has already used a name for their child then that name is off limits - I wouldn't want to have to continually explain which child I was talking to.

maybe you should find out why they really want to use that name - perhaps it's one of their grandfathers middle names or something like that.

I agree it's hard when someone uses a name that you had your heart set on - but there are a billion gazillion names out there!

thing is if they use it you are going to boil everytime you see them, but if they don't use it they are going to be reminded every time they see you that they couldn't use the name they wanted to - which is easier to live with?