Crying to sleep. What do you think??

[MeredithD]

Ah, the struggles of getting baibes to sleep. We are still struggling with Logan at 5mths although he is HEAPS better than in those early weeks.
I would have to agree with the majority consenus on CC. I just cannot see how it could be ok for babies or mums to go through that suffering - instinct tells us that
Jac, I am assuming he is settled at other times of the day? You would just want to be sure it isn't a medical issue such as reflux etc.
If not, then probably the typical "arsenic" time of evening which most babies seem to have. There is a theory that its to do with winding down after a full day of stimulation and their poor little brains just need to "vent". My boy is very easily overstimulated so I do partly believe this theory - nights after a "busy" day are defnitely worse.
I get what you say about him still crying even if held but I still think it would be best to ry and offer comfort. if you or I are upset, someone cuddling us may not stop the tears but sure beats crying alone.
Are you BFing? I used to lay down with Logan in our bed and BF him until he calmed down and/or fell asleep. We did have him co-sleep at night but if you didn't want to do this you could transfer DS to the cot. Would not like to tally up how many hours i lay with Logan but it was sometimes the ONLY thing that worked.
I think someone else suggested a hammock and I would 2nd that. Did not "fix' our sleep/setling issues but certainly helped. May be useful for your son especially if he actually fights being held (my son is like this sometimes too - prefers not to be handled)
You can just bounce the hammock and lull him to sleep and at least still be a presence in the room to calm him.
I also found music to be helpful - calmed me a bit too!
Oh, and have you tried massage and a deep bath? Always good to calm babies prior to bedtime
Hope you find a solution soon that sits ell with you - don't do anything you are not comfortable with.