Deciphering the cries?

[onthefly]

By the time you have it figured out she'll be talking
My theory - just do what feels right and don't stop to think too much.

[*Belle*]

honestly I responded to all her cries, and my first instinct was to change nappy and see if she wanted milk. If she didnt I would comfort her. I was demand feeding. Every bubs is different.

[MummaSue]

Hehe, Marcellus, you have ME sussed. I am thinking too much about EVERYTHING!!!!!

You're right though. Just need to calm the heck down and enjoy bubby and stop analysing everything hey?

Thanks )
Sue x

[onthefly]

I'm a fellow sufferer Sue

[SammyRo]

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Just need to calm the heck down and enjoy bubby and stop analysing everything hey?

Thanks )
Sue x

I was notorious for analysing every little detail with DD - I think I drove my mum crazy. Its only with DS that I do it a bit less!


And as for the cries, I'm still pretty clueless as to what they mean! With both, I tend to clock watch more than interpret their cries and I find that better, although that wouldn't really help with the emotional crying. But then I'm another that will pick them up pretty quickly once they start crying. I'll try and few things and then if all else fails, its on the boob they go!

[Lenny]

I have no idea which cry is which, so I go breastfeed, burping/wind, nappy, cuddles, tired/sleep. That covers all bases!!

When I had my first son I thought all mothers were blissfully in tune with their babies and I was the only one playing the guessing game.

[turtleschell]

Oh don't get me started on deciphering cries. I have absolutely no idea. I just guess. I usually get it right quite quickly (thanks to maternal instinct, what would I do without you!)
But when it comes to overstimulation/too hot or cold/or any other less common things, I take ages and then feel so guilty after.
Don't guilt trip yourself. Your baby doesn't mind if you don't figure it out straight away or even at all. It's all part of being a baby, I'm quite sure they are somehow prepared for all this.

[Tuesday's Child]

A friend told me about Dunstan baby language when DD was only a few weeks old. Its spot on but it does only work before they really start to cry. DD was quite colicky and suffered from reflux and would escalate to emotional/distressed crying very rapidly. She started to settle more around 3-4 months and it's much easier to decipher her cries these days. Of course, we've gotten to know each other better too.

If I couldn't figure it out, I'd put her on the boob.

[MummaSue]

Phew!!!!
Thank goodness. I was beginning to think that I was the only mother who can't really hear the difference!
You guys rock!!!
Sue x

[Fig]

Sue, I tried to 'listen' to the cries with my first DD and could never work out.

You could also try listening to how YOU feel about the cry. If my babies cried and it distressed me, chances are they were distressed. It is so hard though, but eventually the two of you will work out your own communication, you probably already have for most things you just haven't realised it yet.

[entreat]

I have the Dunstan BL DVD & it appears to be spot on. I've heard 4 of the 5 words now, and they are always accurate - especially burping! I get the Gassy word too, but find it really difficult to console because I'm really sure what I can do when the gas is working its way through.

Actually, I should clarify that I've watch about 50% of the DVD (the most important bits) yesterday through fits of tears & anxiety (and a haze of sleep deprivation) about being a bad mum. And at the 1am feed, it turned a simple 'burp me' cry into an easy fix, instead of an hour of holding a baby that I had no idea what he wanted (not to mention shooting down the gas/tummy pain that would come after a few hours if I didn't clear the burp).

But yes, if you have sussed out a few of your baby's cues, I think you're miles ahead of the game! So sit back & relax.