Oh wow I would be furious if I were you!!! Your MIL is definitely stepping over the line and needs to be pulled back in! Not sure how to go about it, if it was me I would probably bottle it up until I exploded, so I wouldn't recommend that! How much longer will you be living with them? I think you're doing an amazing job and are much more patient and tolerant than I would be. Can you organise a family meeting about it? Sit down all together and maybe get your husband to be the one to broach the subject - but if you do it all together, you and FIL are witnesses so your MIL can't pretend she wasn't aware of your feelings IYKWIM?
Hugs hun, here's hoping your house gets built soon!!
My mum did this... she tried to give DD her first solids.
All I can say is... infuriating.
If I were you I would go ape **** at her. Keep yelling till she gets the message. It sounds extreme, but if she's anything like my mother, no amount of explaining will help.
My MIL is a complete nightmare but for different reasons. In my case I can't actually discuss anything with her as she always brushes of all my arguments to me being ignorant. The only way we have been able to solve our issues is for my husband to have REPEATED arguments until she actually gets the point. I found whenever I am involved, she thinks I am interfering even though she is making decisions about my husband and I .
Erm. DH got annoyed with his MiL for taking Liebs swimming before DS did. DH had PLENTY of opportunities to take DS swimming, just that fishing/playing at building a car/PS3 were more important. DS was over 2 years old when Mum took him swimming. OK so DH maybe only had 20 missed opportunities, but if you want a first, you grab it first. I brushed Liebling's teeth as soon as one appeared. How long has your child had teeth?
I'm not defending your MiL, she should let you be the parents. But if you're missing opportunities, can you grab them first? I know with my mum you have to jump in first and if you aren't ready argue til you're blue in the face then not leave her alone with Liebs, but some of it is just DH not stepping up and being upset when someone else does.
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