Katayna thank you for your advice - actually co-sleeping really does scare me - terribly. I would just be absolutely terrified that i would roll on bub. Also DH has a wine or two a night and i read that that was one very big no no. I too have worked with children and also thought that i would do the cot thing and the no spoiling thing, but im realising that we dont give babies the credit that is due to them. I now believe that they are much more involved than just stimulus response based ie give them the boob and they will need the boob always.

Im thinking now that as you all have mentioned that we will meet the bean and see what s/he needs to be a happy, contented and nurtured baby.