This topic has been a big problem between my DH & I. I seem to have a knack for creating mummy's boys!

DS#2 is almost 8 months old and very, very clingy. He has had separation anxiety since he was around 4 months of age. I know it is completely normal and loads of babies go through it, but DS just seems so extreme. If I even LOOK like I'm about to leave the room he starts to cry, then literally screams. He gets so distressed it is heartbreaking. I have always picked him up as soon as he shows distress and I try and minimise our separation by taking him with me everywhere. There are times when he does have to be left to cry (for example, if my DS1 has injured himself), but most of the time I try and avoid this.

My DH always has a go at me for carrying him around so much and he says that I have created this behaviour in DS2 by always picking him up. I find the whole thing just gets me so stressed out and makes me doubt myself and my mothering. I am a real softie and I don't like to leave my boys in a distressed state, I'm always quick to reach out and offer cuddles and comfort. I just CAN'T leave my bub lying on the floor screaming when I know he just wants me.

So...do you think I have created this problem or do you think it is just my DS's personality that makes him this way? DS1 has always been a mummy's boy too, but he was never as extreme as DS2.

I love my boys so much, but I'm worried I'm doing the wrong thing by them. Am I making them too dependant on me?