Trish - I would say you are fulfilling his needs and that its who he is... you would be a bad mother if you weren't making him a happy bub, but since you are doing what is best for him, you are making HIM happy.

I'm sure it will pay off in the future.

And whats wrong with mummy's boys? I've got one.. and I feel bad about all the times that I did let him cry when all he wanted was a cuddle from me because I didn't want to make a mummy's boy (too much time listening to other people's opinions!!) and now I just go with the flow.. .and you know what? He doesn't want to be picked up as much as he used to be...

Go with your instinct honey, you're a great mum!!!!