Family Dynamics with 3 kids.

[Arimeh]

When dd2 was a baby it was great, even though it was 3 under 3.

However - ds and dd1 had always been the best of friends until dd2 started getting older and now ds rarely plays with the older two girls, they just fight.

Dd1 and dd2 play a lot together. Except if we have a friend over, then they usually shut dd2 out of her room.

So in my case, it changed everything and put ds on the outer so to speak, but - and this is a huge BUT - he is the only boy and at that age where he wants to play on the wii and not play with dolls. So it probably would have happened anyway.

[Shanti]

lol, my DD1 asks me all the time 'Mummy, can you grow me a brother now??' Umm...I'll give it a try.

LOL! DD1 says the opposite! She says "Mummy, I don't want another baby sister, I just want L" nawwww! I think it's because she thinks if we have another one, then that will replace L for some reason?! I have to then explain to her, 'well how about another baby sister or brother AND you get to keep L too?" and she says "yeah!!!" hehe

I can't wait to have a 3rd now.... so exciting!! Although happy with my 2 girls for now!

[Heaven]

[Tegam]

Hmmmm any news yet????

[Heaven]

Lol no, not even TTC yet. I thought I wanted a 2 year age gap again but now I find myself pondering these things and I don't know! Decisions decisions... not sure I'm ready for DD2 not to be my 'baby' anymore

[diva det]

love 3 kids
but i must say- my twins are away at camp for 3 days and with 1 child, it is so much different
so 1 child - 1st gear
2 kids- 3rd gear
3 kids- 4th gear
life is faster, busier, quicker, more washing, messier but I would have it any other way!!

[Heaven]

Thanks det!
I always overthink things. I'm sure it will be great but I'm having trouble imagining what 3 kids is like and how they play together. I love how the girls get on so well now, I wonder if that will change with 3, will one be left out? I hope not!

[Sterla]

Lol no, not even TTC yet. I thought I wanted a 2 year age gap again but now I find myself pondering these things and I don't know! Decisions decisions... not sure I'm ready for DD2 not to be my 'baby' anymore

This is exactly how I am feeling atm.

[Heaven]

I hate this indecisive stage!!

[~Trish~]

I felt the same way once! We bit the bullet and went for #3 and have no regrets .

It's hectic, it's crazy, but it's fun! None of our three are left out ever, they're all too stubborn to let that happen .

Just do it I say! (lol easy for me to say)

[Heaven]

LOL Trish! Less thinking, more action hey? haha.

I also don't have that really clucky feeling yet like I want another baby NOW! And it's annoying me, LOL. Most people don't want to be clucky, I do!! In my head I know I want 4 kids, I want a big family, always someone to play with, fun, loud, I want all of it. And I LOVE the 2 year age gap between the girls. I wanted that again because it's awesome and they'd all be close. So I know in my head I want it but why am I not feeling it?? I feel like I should wait til I get that feeling again otherwise it's like I don't really want another baby or something. I can't remember now how I felt before TTC DD2. I know I was worried about how it would impact DD1 but can't remember if I felt all clucky, I don't think I did as much as with DD1 but I did a bit at least and wanted to give her a sibling. Once I was actually pregnant I couldn't wait!!

So will I get that feeling again? Do you get it with each baby still after you've had a couple? Should I wait? The thought of waiting too long and having a much bigger age gap though makes me want to TTC now, ahhhhhhhh.....

I also read all the time how people say they had another baby because they felt someone/something was missing. I don't feel like that! I feel complete. I'm perfectly happy with my two girls now, though I know I want a big family, I don't have that 'something missing' feeling. Is that weird.

OMG listen to me ramble. So sorry for boring you all. All this overthinking things is doing my head in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[~Trish~]

You're way over-thinking things lol! Just kidding, it's very natural, I did the same . I have a 3 year age gap between my first two because I just didn't feel ready yet to have another bub. I wanted to wait until I felt like I wanted another one itms? I had a fear that if I fell pg before I felt ready that the bub may not feel wanted. Probably a silly fear, but that's the way I felt!

Sounds like you're not ready just yet. Keep thinking it over and I'm sure you'll feel ready eventually .

[Heaven]

Thanks Trish. I keep looking at baby photos and videos to try and make myself feel it I'm crazy, I know. But this is interfering with my grand plans, haha.

Anyway, I should know that when I start thinking about it this much all the freakin time it means I'm getting close to wanting a baby anyway. Relax, relax, LOL.

[BellyBelly]

I used to ponder this but now its different - DP has a son (8) and step daughter (16) also who both come up here every fortnight and next year his son will live with us. I don't know if this is going to be a typical third child?!?!? But I can see given it can be a very noisy household its going to be born into noise and hopefully be one of those babies that just fits in and doesn't seem bothered by it!!! Else I might go around the bend lol.

[~Trish~]

Anyway, I should know that when I start thinking about it this much all the freakin time it means I'm getting close to wanting a baby anyway.

Absolutely! That's how it happened when I has ready to go for round three lol! I felt the urge much sooner that time around thank goodness! I guarantee you'll be ready within the next couple of months

[~Trish~]

Oh and just to prove I was over-thinking #3 too, I just dug up this old thread https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ike-72037.html. We started TTC the next month haha!

[Heaven]

hahaha Trish!! Thank you! That thread was helpful anyway!

[Shanti]

LOL Trish! Less thinking, more action hey? haha.

I also don't have that really clucky feeling yet like I want another baby NOW! And it's annoying me, LOL. Most people don't want to be clucky, I do!! In my head I know I want 4 kids, I want a big family, always someone to play with, fun, loud, I want all of it. And I LOVE the 2 year age gap between the girls. I wanted that again because it's awesome and they'd all be close. So I know in my head I want it but why am I not feeling it?? I feel like I should wait til I get that feeling again otherwise it's like I don't really want another baby or something. I can't remember now how I felt before TTC DD2. I know I was worried about how it would impact DD1 but can't remember if I felt all clucky, I don't think I did as much as with DD1 but I did a bit at least and wanted to give her a sibling. Once I was actually pregnant I couldn't wait!!

So will I get that feeling again? Do you get it with each baby still after you've had a couple? Should I wait? The thought of waiting too long and having a much bigger age gap though makes me want to TTC now, ahhhhhhhh.....

I also read all the time how people say they had another baby because they felt someone/something was missing. I don't feel like that! I feel complete. I'm perfectly happy with my two girls now, though I know I want a big family, I don't have that 'something missing' feeling. Is that weird.

OMG listen to me ramble. So sorry for boring you all. All this overthinking things is doing my head in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Omg I could have written all that!!!!!!! I too am feeling like ...ahhhh!! I want another baby but for now I just want DD2 to be the baby. It all feels like its happening too quickly and she's ONE all of a sudden???? When did all of that happen??? Lol
Ikwym about the clucky levels!! I think with each one we get that little less clucky as well we are busy!!?
I too feel complete. But.....want more LOL
I just adore having just the two girls for now and can't picture having 3 kids yet.... I am so loving just two for now!!!
We also want the same age gap again 2yrs4mo but looks like we might have bit bigger gap as we aren't ready to try yet. Plus we have an overseas trip booked so I can't be too pregnant for then anyway