Family Dynamics with 3 kids.

[Heaven]

Lol no, not even TTC yet. I thought I wanted a 2 year age gap again but now I find myself pondering these things and I don't know! Decisions decisions... not sure I'm ready for DD2 not to be my 'baby' anymore

[diva det]

love 3 kids
but i must say- my twins are away at camp for 3 days and with 1 child, it is so much different
so 1 child - 1st gear
2 kids- 3rd gear
3 kids- 4th gear
life is faster, busier, quicker, more washing, messier but I would have it any other way!!

[Heaven]

Thanks det!
I always overthink things. I'm sure it will be great but I'm having trouble imagining what 3 kids is like and how they play together. I love how the girls get on so well now, I wonder if that will change with 3, will one be left out? I hope not!

[Sterla]

Lol no, not even TTC yet. I thought I wanted a 2 year age gap again but now I find myself pondering these things and I don't know! Decisions decisions... not sure I'm ready for DD2 not to be my 'baby' anymore

This is exactly how I am feeling atm.

[Heaven]

I hate this indecisive stage!!

[~Trish~]

I felt the same way once! We bit the bullet and went for #3 and have no regrets .

It's hectic, it's crazy, but it's fun! None of our three are left out ever, they're all too stubborn to let that happen .

Just do it I say! (lol easy for me to say)

[Heaven]

LOL Trish! Less thinking, more action hey? haha.

I also don't have that really clucky feeling yet like I want another baby NOW! And it's annoying me, LOL. Most people don't want to be clucky, I do!! In my head I know I want 4 kids, I want a big family, always someone to play with, fun, loud, I want all of it. And I LOVE the 2 year age gap between the girls. I wanted that again because it's awesome and they'd all be close. So I know in my head I want it but why am I not feeling it?? I feel like I should wait til I get that feeling again otherwise it's like I don't really want another baby or something. I can't remember now how I felt before TTC DD2. I know I was worried about how it would impact DD1 but can't remember if I felt all clucky, I don't think I did as much as with DD1 but I did a bit at least and wanted to give her a sibling. Once I was actually pregnant I couldn't wait!!

So will I get that feeling again? Do you get it with each baby still after you've had a couple? Should I wait? The thought of waiting too long and having a much bigger age gap though makes me want to TTC now, ahhhhhhhh.....

I also read all the time how people say they had another baby because they felt someone/something was missing. I don't feel like that! I feel complete. I'm perfectly happy with my two girls now, though I know I want a big family, I don't have that 'something missing' feeling. Is that weird.

OMG listen to me ramble. So sorry for boring you all. All this overthinking things is doing my head in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[~Trish~]

You're way over-thinking things lol! Just kidding, it's very natural, I did the same . I have a 3 year age gap between my first two because I just didn't feel ready yet to have another bub. I wanted to wait until I felt like I wanted another one itms? I had a fear that if I fell pg before I felt ready that the bub may not feel wanted. Probably a silly fear, but that's the way I felt!

Sounds like you're not ready just yet. Keep thinking it over and I'm sure you'll feel ready eventually .

[Heaven]

Thanks Trish. I keep looking at baby photos and videos to try and make myself feel it I'm crazy, I know. But this is interfering with my grand plans, haha.

Anyway, I should know that when I start thinking about it this much all the freakin time it means I'm getting close to wanting a baby anyway. Relax, relax, LOL.

[Shanti]

LOL Trish! Less thinking, more action hey? haha.

I also don't have that really clucky feeling yet like I want another baby NOW! And it's annoying me, LOL. Most people don't want to be clucky, I do!! In my head I know I want 4 kids, I want a big family, always someone to play with, fun, loud, I want all of it. And I LOVE the 2 year age gap between the girls. I wanted that again because it's awesome and they'd all be close. So I know in my head I want it but why am I not feeling it?? I feel like I should wait til I get that feeling again otherwise it's like I don't really want another baby or something. I can't remember now how I felt before TTC DD2. I know I was worried about how it would impact DD1 but can't remember if I felt all clucky, I don't think I did as much as with DD1 but I did a bit at least and wanted to give her a sibling. Once I was actually pregnant I couldn't wait!!

So will I get that feeling again? Do you get it with each baby still after you've had a couple? Should I wait? The thought of waiting too long and having a much bigger age gap though makes me want to TTC now, ahhhhhhhh.....

I also read all the time how people say they had another baby because they felt someone/something was missing. I don't feel like that! I feel complete. I'm perfectly happy with my two girls now, though I know I want a big family, I don't have that 'something missing' feeling. Is that weird.

OMG listen to me ramble. So sorry for boring you all. All this overthinking things is doing my head in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Omg I could have written all that!!!!!!! I too am feeling like ...ahhhh!! I want another baby but for now I just want DD2 to be the baby. It all feels like its happening too quickly and she's ONE all of a sudden???? When did all of that happen??? Lol
Ikwym about the clucky levels!! I think with each one we get that little less clucky as well we are busy!!?
I too feel complete. But.....want more LOL
I just adore having just the two girls for now and can't picture having 3 kids yet.... I am so loving just two for now!!!
We also want the same age gap again 2yrs4mo but looks like we might have bit bigger gap as we aren't ready to try yet. Plus we have an overseas trip booked so I can't be too pregnant for then anyway

[*EJ*]

For us we were always going to have two, we started discussing a 3rd and both decided that we were happy with the two healthy boys we had (25 months apart). I thought i was ok with this but at the same time a little hesitant about accpeting the finality of it. In the end the decision was made for us as i fell pregnant with a surprise bub when DS2 was 13 months old. I was in shock and it was a little tricky for a bit there dealing with some unexpected emotional feelings but we embraced the fact that we'd be having another little one in our lives fairly quickly.

DS1 & DS2 were pretty good mates by the time DD arrived (DS1 3.11 & DS2 20months) there were lots of challenges with regards to DD being quite a difficult baby at times, with pretty cr@ppy sleep happening and then on top of that we had kinder runs and a couple of activities a week. Lots of guilt on my part at not being able to provide DD with a little less chaos. But fast forward to now and it's actually really pretty good, things are getting easier and DS2 and DD are the best of mates and play together so well. DS1 and DS2 still play well also and there are times when all three of them have a great time toghether

Life is full of interesting moments and challenges but it's what keeps me going. I love my kids with all my heart and every day i look at DD and think how could we have not thought we didin't need another precious little one in our lives.