[QUOTE=Liz;2722081]The first child is the only one that gets you all to themselves for a while
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That's how I try to look at it too. First born child gets so much of Mum & Dad all to themselves so we shouldn't feel guilty for giving them a sibling but don't worry, I do know what you mean, I'm sure most of us, I know I have, felt that way at some point or another.....
I'm 9weeks away from giving birth to our 2nd and now I'm just excited! Although I do have my moments some days where I feel a bit sad it won't just be me and DD anymore as we've been buddies for 2yrs just the two of us at home etc doing things together but then I focus on the positives of adding a new baby to our family and what that will bring for us all.
Age gap will be 28mths so I've had some time to enjoy DD just on her own too which was what we had planned.
I felt guilty after DD was born and it really shook me because I didn't expect to feel that way at all. It was very overwhelming. I felt guilty that DS wasn't my baby anymore even though he was still a baby, guilty that I had to share him, and guilty for feeling guilty! It got better over time and DS and DD adore each other and I still have my one on one time with each of them which is so valuable and I cherish it.
Why is it good for children to have siblings? If you don't want to inflict a sibling on your child, you don't have to.
Having said that, I don't mind inflicting siblings on DS - when he's a bit older, as he's not the sort of little one who can cope with a sibling, especially a younger one, and if I have another like him I want the age gap to be biiiiig. Is your daughter ready for a sibling? Will she be in 9 months' time? Some will, some won't.
but don't worry, I do know what you mean, I'm sure most of us, I know I have, felt that way at some point or another.....
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