Heaven, I had to leave the kids with my Mum (at my house though, so I think that helped) to go to a funeral when Ryan was 3 months old. I was away for about four hours (and didn't even get to the wake!), and he needed a feed while I was out. Mum got him to have a bottle of formula (I told her to feed him if need be), but with great struggle. He was very pleased to have me home once I got back. It was on my mind while I was out, especially by the time I felt like my bbs were going to explode, but I knew things were under control (I actually had my phone on silent and told my Mum to ring me so that I knew if there was a problem, but not that I would answer it, so that was reassuring).
Sterla tell your mum that your and DS are not ready but she will be the first on your list when you are! I have found it hard with DD2 to leave her with anyone she is breastfeed, won't take a bottle and gets very upset if I am not there, she gets extremely grumpy the day after anyone else watches her even DH! This is the opposite to DD1 who would breastfeed or have a bottle and was happy to be around anyone, she was in special care and has always been around lots of people and had bottles so I think its made a difference so she was babysat at about 8 weeks.
It is only the past couple of weeks that she was happy with him because she is on solids during the day with an occasional feed. We had a sitter on Saturday night as we had a friend's 30th and she wasn't able to get DD2 to feed so I was up at midnight, 4.30am and 7.30am with her.
Take your time and let DH watch her for longer periods of time first and if your mum wants a girls breakfast take DS, he still needs his mum!
Thanks for your replies . I'm glad I'm not the only 'weird' one out there who hasn't left their LO yet. That in itself helps a lot .
Big to you Heaven - I would be freaking out too!
I don't understand everyone's insistence that I should be leaving DS with other people - like I'm strange to want to look after my own baby! DH and I do get couple-only time every evening, as DS is in bed by 7.30pm, so we get a few hours to ourselves - not quite the same as going out, so that will be nice one day - just not yet.
I think I'll just have to tell my mum (and others) that I'm not ready yet - but I will add that she'll be the first person I call when I finally am ready (thanks for that suggestion ).
Thanks again for your replies - I don't feel quite so silly for making a big(ish) deal out it.
I had left Jack with Jase (DH) while I ducked to shops etc, the first time I left him with someone else he was 3 weeks shy of 2yrs and it was for 3 hrs for a wedding reception, the next time was when he was about 29 mths with a friend for 3hrs while I had my hair done, the next time was 12 days ago when he was with my mum for 6hrs while I had c-sect with Luke he also spent about 2hrs with my IL's while I was inhosp with Luke I dont plan on leaving him again for a while
though I have been informed by DH that in feb we are leaving both boys with a friend as he has a work dinner to celebrate 10 yrs of service and already I am in tears and upset about this, I beleive I woudl be fine to leave Jack but Luke wont be 4mths so I am fretting big time
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. I'm glad I'm not the only 'weird' one out there who hasn't left their LO yet. That in itself helps a lot 
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to you Heaven - I would be freaking out too!
dont feel pressured move at you own pace
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