Thankyou so much for your replys

I still have 10 weeks to work out what I'm gonna do, I have an OB appointment tomorrow which I'm going to by myself so maybe I'll ask her what she thinks i should do.

I agree that secretly knowing would be a very hard thing, but i don't think that I can wait another 30 weeks to find out! maybe i'll talk to DH about it again in a couple of months, maybe he will change his mind or convince me otherwise