Emma, I'm definately not going to worry about offending people next time. The same people I whinged about above also went so far as to try guilt tripping me because I didnt want to go out for a couple hour on my own and leave girl there with them. I didnt go, but gosh did they go on and on about it! I do definately wish I was more assertive and had the balls to just tell them what I think!! My little thing for next time is that NO ONE is to be called and given "updates" while I am in labour and NO ONE is to visit without ringing me first or without me specifically inviting them. I'm even thinking of telling people we're going to a different hospital so that they'll be stuffed if they show up uninvited (at the other hospital) and I'm not there. It will be especially satisfying if they have travelled a long distance and I am not there. Serves them right! haha I am mean. (I only want to do that because people showed up uninvited and wouldnt leave this time). I am still thinking of some good plans fr when we are home from hospital too. Anyways, we arent TTC but I just lke to plan ahead!

Sorry to go off topic there..
But seriously, 7 weeks after my girls birth I was still so emotional and the overcrowdyness of a big family thing was just too much for me. But everyone is different nd others may feel great afterwrds and like all the family 'helping' - I personally like to do things on my own.The thing people said really played with my emotions and confidence because some people were saying I should not have done "this and that" to the point where I felt guilty and doubted myself . Im sure that happens to lots of people. I didnt imagine tht I would feel that way so it ws a shock! so I just wanted to be left alone.

omg sorry again for the ramble!